等Michael被收养了之后，我们一直在讨论谁应该是第四个孩子，或第七个孩子（我有五个兄弟姐妹，但只有两个跟我一块住）。Tracy已经有家了，所以我们得选个另一个小孩。我们对另一个爱百福的小男孩叫Eric有了兴趣。他们跟我们说Eric很聪明，一个星期就学会了中文盲文，而且对着世界也很好奇。我很喜欢她而且很想收养他。
去年夏天妈妈去了中国帮助爱百福的小孩。她发现Eric并不是我们想象的那种Eric。事实的Eric和我们想象的Eric完全相反。从那时候我学了一个新东西：如果你收养一个中国小孩，然后他们给你一张关于那个小孩的报告，有时候他们纸上说跟事实一点都不一样。这让我很生气，我那时候真不明白中国人为什么要骗美国人，这伤害的并不是那些大人，而是那些无辜的孤儿。爸爸跟我说是因为这样他们就可以更快地帮助那些小孩找到家。那时候我想那些倒是挺好的呀。可是爸爸说不是。比如有一个孩子他经常生病，需要经常看医生。如果他们说那个小孩很健康的话，然后收养的那个小孩的家庭认为他是一个很健康的小孩。但等他们见到了那个小孩然后知道他有很多的健康问题，他们决定他们不能收养他因为他们住的地方没有什么好的医生。我觉得他们应该更要诚实一些。我倒是有一个好方法，在你们收养一个孩子之前你们可以去看看他们，但是不要告诉你是他们的父母，因为这让那些小孩很糊涂。在你看看他们的时候，你就可以了解了解他们。这样你就不会有那么多的误会了！
所以我们不能收养Eric因为他不适合我们这家庭。在妈妈在爱百福的时候，她喜欢上了另一个小孩名字叫福甜。她是一个很老实，很安静的小孩。爸爸和妈妈很喜欢她。那时候我不怎么对她有兴趣因为我还是很想收养Eric。但我也什么都没说。我还是很高兴因为我们又要收养小孩了！
After Michael was adopted, we always talked about who should be the fourth child, or the seventh child (I have five siblings, but only two of them are living with me). Tracy already has a family, so we had to choose another child. We were interest in another boy from Bethel who's name is Eric. They told us that Eric is very smart, he learned Chinese braille in one week, and was very curious about the world. I liked him and really wanted to adopt him.
Last summer mom went to China to help the Bethel kids. She found out that Eric isn't the Eric that we thought. The real Eric is totally opposite than we thought. I learned one thing from that event: If you adopt a Chinese child, and they give a report about that child, somtimes what it say on the paper is totally different that the truth. That made me mad, I really didn't understand why Chinese people lie to America people, it doesn't hurt the adult, it hurt those innocent orphans. Dad told me it's because that way they could help the children to get family faster. I thought that was nice. However, dad said no. For example, there is one child is very sick, need to see the doctor very often. If they said that child is very health, then the family who adopt that child think he is a very health child. However, when they met the child they found they that he has many health isssue, they decide they can't adopt him because they place they live doesn't have good doctor. I think they should be more honest. I have a good idea, before you adopting a child you can visit them, but don't tell them that you are they parent, because it will confuse the children. When you visitng them, you can get to know them. That way you will not have many misunderstand.
So we couldn't adopt Eric because he doesn't fit our family. When mom was in Bethel, she like another child name is Futian. She is very well behave, quiet girl. Mom and Dad like her very much. I wasn't very interesting in her because I still want to adopt Eric very much. However, I didn't say anything. I still very happy because we were going adopt another girl again!
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