不应该对孤儿和有新家的孩子做的事儿
不应该对孤儿做的事儿：
1. “叫我妈妈”或“叫她妈妈”
有一次在新年的时候，我们孩子们给阿姨和福利院办公室的阿姨表演节目。我们那时候有两个院长，一男一女。那个男的院长是新的。我那时候觉得院长叔叔好像要接替院长阿姨，但我也不太清楚。我们区长李阿姨告诉我们一会等院长阿姨和院长叔叔来的时候，我们孩子们得跟他们说：“院长妈妈新年好，院长爸爸新年好！” 我那时候没听。我反而叫他们阿姨和叔叔。他们又不是我的爸爸妈妈，我为什么要叫他们爸爸妈妈？而且他们又不跟我说话，说不定他们还不认识我呢！真正的爸爸妈妈是跟你说话的也认识你的，他们会每天看你问你好。我就是觉得阿姨们根本就没有权利随随便便告诉孤儿们叫别人爸爸妈妈。阿姨们应该让孤儿自己来做主。我在福利院四年只管两个阿姨叫过妈妈。这两个阿姨我都很喜欢。一个阿姨叫我叫她的，另一个阿姨是我问她的。现在我不叫她们妈妈了因为我有了美国“真正”妈妈，况且自从我离开了我寄养家庭之后，让我叫别人妈妈倒是挺有点变扭的。
2. “你应该怪你的父母把你跟扔了，他们那么狠！”
我觉得很少的孤儿在中国知道他们的父母放弃他们的原因。是的，他们有原因生他们亲生父母的气。但是，大人的任务应该是教孩子们怎么原谅他们的亲生父母。鼓励孩子们试着想想他们亲生父母选择的原因，然后长大后试着停止父母抛弃孩子。我觉得我亲生父母抛弃我的原因是因为我有残疾。他们觉得医生得治我，不然我就没有好生活，但他们没钱。我是气他们没有残疾人能做什么事儿的信心。但是现在也是时间让我自己原谅他们。我长大会给全世界看不管你有多残疾，只要你信心，只要你努力去做而且不放弃，那你做任何你想做的事儿，只是我们做的方法跟你们不一样而已。以后我会写一个关于残疾人的事儿。
3. “怪不得你爸妈扔了你”
有时候当孤儿做了让阿姨们或其他人生气的事儿，他们就会骂他们。有的时候大人就会用这句话骂他们。这件事儿从来都没有发生在我身上。但是，孤儿一般都是在他们小婴儿的时候被抛弃的。小婴儿能做什么严重的事儿让他们值得被抛弃？一件事儿都没有！孤儿跟其他人一样，只是他们的父母放弃了他们。而且根本就不是他们的错！
不应该对最近被收养的孩子做的事儿：
1. “你可真幸运呀！”
我不知道为什么别人会对最近被收养的孩子说这个。或许他们的意思是对于孤儿来说，被收养比一生都要当孤儿要好。这个想法我倒是同意。但或许你们不知道，让孩子们放弃一切东西去跟一个陌生人生活是很难的事情。如果加上他们陌生人说不同的语言就跟难了！这是叫幸运吗？孤儿一开始就不幸运。每个孩子一开始都应该有一个美好的家的。孤儿被收养是叫她们的生活可能会更好一些，根本就不是幸运。如果你们再这样说的话，那我想让你们回答一个问题：你愿意跟他们换生活吗？
2. “你为什么不爱你家人呀？”
a. 你会立马爱你上第一次见过的大人吗？如果你的答案是是的话，那在你要放弃你的一切的时候去跟一个陌生家庭生活，你会立马爱上他们吗？如果她们说不同的语言，你会立马爱上他们吗？你的答案还是是吗？如果不是的话，那请你们就不要问一个刚有新家的孩子这个问题。新家的时间对有些孤儿是短的，有些孤儿是长的。我的意思就是有些孩子融入家庭是挺快的。有些孩子融入家庭是挺慢的。你要给他们时间。所以如果你没有看到他们给他们的父母表现得他们的爱，那请不要问这个问题。当然，有时如果你问他们为什么没有想过他们的家人或是相同的问题，那请你也不要问。当别人问我这些问题的时候，我感到不舒服，我觉得我不是好人因为我不爱我新家人。我想问有新家的孩子这些问题的人应该不是会想给他们这样的感受吧。你可以试试告诉有新家的孩子他们的父母有多爱他们，但也不要太多。这样会让他们觉得很内疚。
b. 有时候父母会在他们第一收养的孩子融入家庭的时候再收养孩子。一般在父母收养很多孩子的时候，孩子们以前不知道对方。而且一般的时候收养哪个孩子不是那个已经被收养孩子的选择，所以第一个孩子不一定会立马爱上那个要走进他家庭的孩子。在这种情况，你也不能问这个问题。
我想让你们读完的时候分享给别人，尤其是让有新家的孩子烦的事儿。这两件事儿有时候对孤儿来说是很大的压力。如果他们不没压力的话，那说不定他们会融入家庭融入得更快。
Things That Irritate Orphans:
1. "Call me mom" or "Call her mom"
In 2012 during the Lunar New Year, we the kids performed show to the nannies and the orphanage office staff. At that time we have two orphanage directors, a man and a women. The man director was new. I believed that the women director was going to be replaced by the man director, but I am not sure. Our supervisor Nanny Li told us when the orphanage directors come in, we the kids need to say, "Happy New Year director mom, Happy New Year director dad!" I didn't listen. I called them aunt and uncle instead, which in China, is the same thing as ma'am and sir in America. They weren't my mom and dad, why should I call them mom and dad? Beside they never talked to me, maybe they don't even know me! Real mom and dad talked to you and know you, they will see you everyday and ask how are you doing. I just think that the nannies don't have any right to just tell orphans to call other people mom and dad. The nannies should let the orphans decides. I lived in the orphanage four years and I only call two nannies mom. I like both of them a lot. One of the told me to call her mom, I ask the other nanny to call her mom. Now I didn't call them mom anymore because I have "real" America mom, beside ever since I left my foster family, call other people mom was just awkward to me.
2. "You should blame your parents for they abandon you, what a cruel person they are!"
I think very few orphans in China know the reasons that their parents abandon them. Yes, they have the right to be mad at their biological parents. However, adult's job should be to teach the kids how to forgive their biological parents. Encourage them to try to think the reasons that their parents abandoned them, and later try to stop parents to abandon children when they grow up. I think the reason that my biological parents abandon me is that I have a disability. They thought that I have to be fixed by doctors, or I won't have a good life, but they didn't have money. I am mad that they don't have confidence that people with disability can do stuff. Now is the time for me to forgive them. When I grow up, I will show the whole world that no matter how disable you are, if you have confidence, if you work hard and not give up, then you can do anything you want to do. Is just that the way that we do stuff might be different than yours. Later I will write a post about people with disability.
3. "No wonder that you parents abandon you."
Sometimes when the orphans did something that made the nannies or other people mad, they will scold them. Sometimes the adults will use this sentence to scold them. This had never happen to me. However, orphans usually are being abandoned when they are infants. What big mistake can an infant do to deserve to be abandoned? Not a single thing! Orphans are same as everybody else, only their parents abandon them. And is just not their fault!
Things That Shouldn't be Done to Newly Adopted Kids:
1. "You are so lucky!"
I don't know why people would say that to a newly adopted kid. Maybe they mean that for orphans, it's better for them to be adopted than to be an orphan all life long. I agree with that. However, maybe you guys don't know that tell the kids to give up all the things and to live with strangers is very hard. It will be harder if the parents speak a different language! Is that called lucky? Orphans aren't lucky to begin with. Every kid should start with a love family. Orphans being adopted are called that their life might be better, but totally not lucky. If you continue to say this, then I want you to answer me a question: Would you trade life with them?
2. "Why you don't love your family?"
a. Will you fall in love immediately with an adult that you just met? If the answer is yes, then would you love the stranger family immediately when you have to give up all everything to live with them? If they speak different language, would you love them immediately? Is your answer still yes? If is not, then please don't ask that question to a newly adopted kids. A period of new family to some orphans are short, to some are long. What I mean is that some kids get use to the family fast. Some kids get use to the family slow. You have to give them time. So if you didn't see them show their love to their parents, then please don't ask that question. Of course, if sometimes you ask them why they never miss or think about their family or similar question, then don't ask that either. When people ask me this question, I felt uncomfortable; I thought I wasn't a good person because I don't love my new family. I think the people who ask newly adopted kids these questions doesn't want them to feel that way, right? You can try to tell the newly adopted kids how much their parents love them, but not too much. Because then it was made them feel guilty.
b. Sometime parents will adopted another kid during their first adopted kid's adjustment to the family. Usually when parents adopted many kids, the kids didn't know each other before they got adopted. Beside usually it's not the kid who got adopted to choose whom should they adopted. So the adopted kids might not fell in love with the kid who is going to enter his/her family. In this situation, you can't ask those questions that I talked about either.
I want you guys to share to other people when you finished read this, especially about things that shouldn't be done to the newly adopted kids. These two things sometimes are pressure to them. If they don't have that pressure, then maybe they will get use to the family quicker.
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Wednesday, July 27, 2016
Thought about Family as an Orphan
孤儿对家庭的想法
读者们好！我好长时间没有在我的博客写东西了。我的学校生活很忙而且这几个月我也不知道我应该在我的博客上写什么。现在我想了想：我想写作为一个孤儿，我对家庭是有什么样的想法。这是一个很难的过程而且大多数我是孤儿的时候我也不知道我是怎么想的。
我从小是跟一个寄养家庭在农村长大的。我以为他们是我的亲生父母。不过同时，我在那里上学的时候我觉得我班跟其他班不一样。我也不知道我是怎么知道我班大多数或所有的同学，加上我，都是孤儿。我养父有时候跟我开玩笑说：“如果你不听话的话，那你就会送到福利院。”我那时候笑了笑然后什么都没想。
当我八岁的时候，不知道为什么，我被送到了福利院。但我也没有问任何问题。我养母实在是舍不得我走。我养父安慰安慰了我养母。我那时候很想念我的养父养母因为他们对我很好。在我在福利院4年的时候，他们只看过我两次。我知道有一个女孩的寄养家庭父母在她被收养之前在福利院的一两年时就被看望过16次。我不明白为什么我养父养母只看我一两次。难道他们不想我吗？不对。当他们看我的时候然后我们要分开的时候我养母是很舍不得我的。阿姨们告诉我那个女孩被看望那么多次是因为她很听话。（他们老是用这个原因，像你为什么没有被收养什么的）我那时候没有相信因为那个愿意根本就不符合道理。后来我知道我养父养母问了他们去看我好几遍了，但不知为什么，他们只让我养父养母看我一两次。
我在福利院最后一年的时候，我听有人给他的寄养父母打了电话。阿姨们告诉我们福利院的电话不能打外线的。(除非你摁9）
我给我寄养家庭和刘雨晴打了几个电话。然后有一天有一个在办公室的阿姨告诉我我养母告诉了他们我给他们打了电话，我告诉了他们事实然后他们说我不能再打了。我那时候不高兴。第一，为什么我养母告诉了他们？第二，为什么我不能给我寄养父母打电话？我又不是石头，我是有感受的！对我来说，他们是在偷走我的家！然后我继续想，为什么我寄养家庭把我送到福利院？我那时候知道我是个孤儿，但同时我又觉得我寄养家庭是我的亲生家庭。这个对你们和我都很糊里糊涂的！
后来我知道我养母没有告诉福利院我给他们打了电话。那个阿姨骗我这样我能说实话，这实在是太不公平了！他们怎么能这样做呀！在福利院，很多阿姨说谎，我讨厌她们说谎，而且她们从来都没有为了这个道过歉！但小孩说谎的时候，她们就告诉小孩子们说谎是不好的。这也太不公平了吧！我后来也知道我寄养父母不是我的亲生父母，他们把我送到福利院是因为他们想让我上个好学校然后或许被收养。
在福利院里，人们说好多关于收养的事儿。我只在听到孩子们被收养了或是他们要被收养的时候才想到想有家。我知道当你14岁的时候，你就不能被收养了。当我12岁左右，我不敢想象在中国外面跟一个家庭生活。当我听到孩子去美国的时候，我就想为什么没有一个孩子呆在中国？有一次我听说我的一个朋友被一个中国家庭收养而且住在另一个中国的部分。那时我就希望我的未来是被一个中国家庭收养而且呆在中国。当然了，这个根本就没有发生。但我是真的很希望中国人会收养中国小孩的！那就太好了！
有时候我在中国想：“如果我没有被收养而且呆在中国又有什么大不了的？我的生活又不是那么坏。”
在2011年，11月29日，阿姨们告诉我我有家庭了。我那时候很高兴，但说实话，我也不知道为什么我那么高兴。我只知道我很高兴。你们从来有没有这个感受呀？我从那天到我见到我父母之前都很高兴。当我见到我父母的时候，我就变安静了。当我们要走的时候我留了几滴眼泪。然后我们去了将阿姨和叔叔的家里。他们的工作是欢迎外国人然后让他们了解了解北京。当他们商量我们在北京这几天应该做什么，我主要就是想看我知道的人。他们同意了而且结果我看望了我小学大约一小时。然后我去了刘雨晴的家里。那天是我和我父母在中国做好的一天。
我跟我父母的第二天是我签字同不同意他们当我的父母。我说我同意因为我知道如果我不同意的话，阿姨肯定会骂我骂道我会后悔后悔到一生。我是怎么知道的？有二个孩子被收养了但他们拒绝了。有一个孩子后悔了阿姨们跟他们提了这件事好几次。
当我来到了美国，我很想中国而且家里没有什么事儿可以做的。我浪费了好多时间。我打了好多电话。中国人好多次都告诉我我父母是爱我的而且我也要爱他们。我那是很不舒服而且很内疚。
当我妈妈收养了我从来都没有认识的Lucy，我美国同学会问我我想不想她或是我爱不爱她。我没有回答，但我很内疚。
有一次我们去了一个饭店家北京，那里有一个中国阿姨问我我是不是被收养的。我们说是的。她说我很幸运。我那时候不同意因为我是在跟两个陌生人一起住而且他们说的语言跟我不一样，但我也没说什么。
一年又一年过去了，Amy来到了我家庭。时间过去了，Amy在我融入家庭之前自己融入了家庭。看着看着，我就希望我也能有这样的快乐。所以我开始学怎么爱我家人。这是一个很长的过程！但我做到了！！！我为我父母要等我三年的时间才会回爱他们感到对不起，但后来我知道从当孤儿到有一个陌生家庭是非常难的！！你得让他们慢慢的融入家庭里。
我有跟多的感受要写，但我觉得要把所有的写到一夜博客上好像是太多了。所以请您呆在这儿！
Hey Readers! It's been a long time since I've written anything down in my blog. I got pretty busy with my school life and I don't know what to write in my blog these couple months. Right now I thought about it: I want to write about as a orphan, what do I think about family. It's a hard process and I didn't know how do I felt about it when I was an orphan most of the times.
Growing up, I lived with a foster family on the country side. I thought they were my biological parents. However, at the same time, I went to school there and I felt that my class is different than other class in the school. Somehow, I knew that most or all of my classmates are orphan, including me. My foster father sometimes joked with me saying, "If you don't well behave, then you will be sent into the orphanage." I laughed, and didn't really think about it.
When I was eight years old, I move to the orphanage and don't know why! I didn't ask any questions though. My foster mother had a hard time of letting me go. My foster father comforted my foster mother. I missed my foster parents a lot because they were really good to me. They only visit me once or twice while I was in the orphanage for 4 years. I knew a girl who was getting 16 visits in one or two years before she got adopted. I wondered why my foster parents only visit me that much. Do they not miss me? No. When they visit me, they looked like they miss me a lot and when the visit is over, my foster mother had a hard time of letting me go. The nannies told me the girl got so much visit because she was so well behaved. (They use if you well behaved for a lot of reason, like why you didn't get a family!) I didn't believe the reason anyway because it's just doesn't make any sense to me. Later I found out that my foster family asked to visit me many times, but for some reasons, they only let them visit me once or twice.
The last years of orphanages, I heard somebody made phone call to their foster family. The nannies have been told kids that the phone in the orphanage can't make phone call outside the orphanages. (not if you don't hit 9 before you dial the number)
I made couple phone calls to my foster parents and to Liu Yuqing. Then one day one of the nannies who work in office told me that my foster mother told them that I made phone calls to them, I told them to truth and they say to not to do it again. I was unhappy. First, why my foster mother told them? Second, why can't I talk to my foster parents? I am not a rock, I have feelings! To me, they were steal my family from me! Then I wondering more, why my foster family sent me to the orphanage? I knew I was an orphan, yet at the same time I thought my foster family was my biological family. That was so confusing to you and to me too!!
Later I know that my foster mother didn't tell the orphanage that I made phone call to me. That nanny lied to me so I could admit the truth, that is so unfair! How could they do that! In the orphanage, a lot of the nanny lie, I hated it when they did it, and they never said sorry about it. When it come to kids lying, they told the kids that it's not good to lie! So unfair! I also found out that my foster parents aren't my biological parents, and they sent me to the orphanage to have better education and maybe get adopted.
People talk a lot of adoption in the orphanage. I only thought about wanting a family when I hear kids adopted or when they talk about who is getting a family. I knew when you turn 14, you aged out. When I was around 12, I could't imagine of having a family and living outside of China. Sometimes when they talk about kids go to America, I wondered why none of them stay in China? One time I hear a rumor that one of my friends was adopted by a Chinese family and live in another part of China. That time I wished that my future will be a Chinese family adopt me and stay in China. Of course, it didn't happen. Though I really wish that Chinese people will adopted Chinese orphans! That will be wonderful!!
Sometimes in China I thought, "What's the big deal if I don't get adopted and stay in China? My life isn't too horrible anyway."
On November 29. 2011, the nannies told me that I have a family. I was so happy, but to be honest, I didn't quiet know what I was happy about. I just know that I was happy. Have you had that kind of feelings? I stay happy until the day when my parents got me. I got quiet. When we are leave, I drop a little bit of tears. Then we went back to a house that belong to a women whose name is Joy, and the men call Michael. They job was to welcome foreigners to their house and get them to know Beijing. When they talk about what to do while my family stay in Beijing, the main things that I thought was to see the people that I know. They agree and I ended up visiting my elementary school for about a hour or so. Then I went to LiuYuqing's house. That day was the best day when I was in China with my parents.
The second day with my parents is the day that I sign whether if I want them to be my parents or not. I said yes because I knew if I didn't said yes, the nannies probably going to scold me so bad that I am going to be regret for the rest of my life. How do I know that? There was two kids that was adopted but said no to it. One of them regret because the nannies reminded them again and again.
When I came to America, I was very homesick and there is nothing to do. I waste a lot of times. I made a lot of phone calls. People in China told me over and over again that my parents loves me and I should loves them back. I felt very uncomfortable and guilty.
When my mom adopted Lucy, who was totally stranger to me before, my American classmates will ask if I miss Lucy or loves her. I didn't answer, but I felt guilty.
Onetime we went to a restaurant call Beijing and there is a women who is Chinese and ask me if I was adopted. We told her yes. She said that I was lucky. I disagreed at that time because I was living with two strangers who speak different languages but I didn't say anything.
Year went by, Amy came to our family. Time went by, Amy started to get use to the family before me. As I watched, I wish I could have that kind of happiness too. So I started to learned how to love my family. It's a such long process! However, I did it!!! I felt sorry that my parents have to wait 3 years for me to loves them back, but I later also understood that transition from an orphan to having a family with strangers is just hard!! You just have to let them to take their own time to get adjust to the family.
I have a lot more thoughts to write down, but I think it's too long to write in one post. So please hang in there!
读者们好！我好长时间没有在我的博客写东西了。我的学校生活很忙而且这几个月我也不知道我应该在我的博客上写什么。现在我想了想：我想写作为一个孤儿，我对家庭是有什么样的想法。这是一个很难的过程而且大多数我是孤儿的时候我也不知道我是怎么想的。
我从小是跟一个寄养家庭在农村长大的。我以为他们是我的亲生父母。不过同时，我在那里上学的时候我觉得我班跟其他班不一样。我也不知道我是怎么知道我班大多数或所有的同学，加上我，都是孤儿。我养父有时候跟我开玩笑说：“如果你不听话的话，那你就会送到福利院。”我那时候笑了笑然后什么都没想。
当我八岁的时候，不知道为什么，我被送到了福利院。但我也没有问任何问题。我养母实在是舍不得我走。我养父安慰安慰了我养母。我那时候很想念我的养父养母因为他们对我很好。在我在福利院4年的时候，他们只看过我两次。我知道有一个女孩的寄养家庭父母在她被收养之前在福利院的一两年时就被看望过16次。我不明白为什么我养父养母只看我一两次。难道他们不想我吗？不对。当他们看我的时候然后我们要分开的时候我养母是很舍不得我的。阿姨们告诉我那个女孩被看望那么多次是因为她很听话。（他们老是用这个原因，像你为什么没有被收养什么的）我那时候没有相信因为那个愿意根本就不符合道理。后来我知道我养父养母问了他们去看我好几遍了，但不知为什么，他们只让我养父养母看我一两次。
我在福利院最后一年的时候，我听有人给他的寄养父母打了电话。阿姨们告诉我们福利院的电话不能打外线的。(除非你摁9）
我给我寄养家庭和刘雨晴打了几个电话。然后有一天有一个在办公室的阿姨告诉我我养母告诉了他们我给他们打了电话，我告诉了他们事实然后他们说我不能再打了。我那时候不高兴。第一，为什么我养母告诉了他们？第二，为什么我不能给我寄养父母打电话？我又不是石头，我是有感受的！对我来说，他们是在偷走我的家！然后我继续想，为什么我寄养家庭把我送到福利院？我那时候知道我是个孤儿，但同时我又觉得我寄养家庭是我的亲生家庭。这个对你们和我都很糊里糊涂的！
后来我知道我养母没有告诉福利院我给他们打了电话。那个阿姨骗我这样我能说实话，这实在是太不公平了！他们怎么能这样做呀！在福利院，很多阿姨说谎，我讨厌她们说谎，而且她们从来都没有为了这个道过歉！但小孩说谎的时候，她们就告诉小孩子们说谎是不好的。这也太不公平了吧！我后来也知道我寄养父母不是我的亲生父母，他们把我送到福利院是因为他们想让我上个好学校然后或许被收养。
在福利院里，人们说好多关于收养的事儿。我只在听到孩子们被收养了或是他们要被收养的时候才想到想有家。我知道当你14岁的时候，你就不能被收养了。当我12岁左右，我不敢想象在中国外面跟一个家庭生活。当我听到孩子去美国的时候，我就想为什么没有一个孩子呆在中国？有一次我听说我的一个朋友被一个中国家庭收养而且住在另一个中国的部分。那时我就希望我的未来是被一个中国家庭收养而且呆在中国。当然了，这个根本就没有发生。但我是真的很希望中国人会收养中国小孩的！那就太好了！
有时候我在中国想：“如果我没有被收养而且呆在中国又有什么大不了的？我的生活又不是那么坏。”
在2011年，11月29日，阿姨们告诉我我有家庭了。我那时候很高兴，但说实话，我也不知道为什么我那么高兴。我只知道我很高兴。你们从来有没有这个感受呀？我从那天到我见到我父母之前都很高兴。当我见到我父母的时候，我就变安静了。当我们要走的时候我留了几滴眼泪。然后我们去了将阿姨和叔叔的家里。他们的工作是欢迎外国人然后让他们了解了解北京。当他们商量我们在北京这几天应该做什么，我主要就是想看我知道的人。他们同意了而且结果我看望了我小学大约一小时。然后我去了刘雨晴的家里。那天是我和我父母在中国做好的一天。
我跟我父母的第二天是我签字同不同意他们当我的父母。我说我同意因为我知道如果我不同意的话，阿姨肯定会骂我骂道我会后悔后悔到一生。我是怎么知道的？有二个孩子被收养了但他们拒绝了。有一个孩子后悔了阿姨们跟他们提了这件事好几次。
当我来到了美国，我很想中国而且家里没有什么事儿可以做的。我浪费了好多时间。我打了好多电话。中国人好多次都告诉我我父母是爱我的而且我也要爱他们。我那是很不舒服而且很内疚。
当我妈妈收养了我从来都没有认识的Lucy，我美国同学会问我我想不想她或是我爱不爱她。我没有回答，但我很内疚。
有一次我们去了一个饭店家北京，那里有一个中国阿姨问我我是不是被收养的。我们说是的。她说我很幸运。我那时候不同意因为我是在跟两个陌生人一起住而且他们说的语言跟我不一样，但我也没说什么。
一年又一年过去了，Amy来到了我家庭。时间过去了，Amy在我融入家庭之前自己融入了家庭。看着看着，我就希望我也能有这样的快乐。所以我开始学怎么爱我家人。这是一个很长的过程！但我做到了！！！我为我父母要等我三年的时间才会回爱他们感到对不起，但后来我知道从当孤儿到有一个陌生家庭是非常难的！！你得让他们慢慢的融入家庭里。
我有跟多的感受要写，但我觉得要把所有的写到一夜博客上好像是太多了。所以请您呆在这儿！
Hey Readers! It's been a long time since I've written anything down in my blog. I got pretty busy with my school life and I don't know what to write in my blog these couple months. Right now I thought about it: I want to write about as a orphan, what do I think about family. It's a hard process and I didn't know how do I felt about it when I was an orphan most of the times.
Growing up, I lived with a foster family on the country side. I thought they were my biological parents. However, at the same time, I went to school there and I felt that my class is different than other class in the school. Somehow, I knew that most or all of my classmates are orphan, including me. My foster father sometimes joked with me saying, "If you don't well behave, then you will be sent into the orphanage." I laughed, and didn't really think about it.
When I was eight years old, I move to the orphanage and don't know why! I didn't ask any questions though. My foster mother had a hard time of letting me go. My foster father comforted my foster mother. I missed my foster parents a lot because they were really good to me. They only visit me once or twice while I was in the orphanage for 4 years. I knew a girl who was getting 16 visits in one or two years before she got adopted. I wondered why my foster parents only visit me that much. Do they not miss me? No. When they visit me, they looked like they miss me a lot and when the visit is over, my foster mother had a hard time of letting me go. The nannies told me the girl got so much visit because she was so well behaved. (They use if you well behaved for a lot of reason, like why you didn't get a family!) I didn't believe the reason anyway because it's just doesn't make any sense to me. Later I found out that my foster family asked to visit me many times, but for some reasons, they only let them visit me once or twice.
The last years of orphanages, I heard somebody made phone call to their foster family. The nannies have been told kids that the phone in the orphanage can't make phone call outside the orphanages. (not if you don't hit 9 before you dial the number)
I made couple phone calls to my foster parents and to Liu Yuqing. Then one day one of the nannies who work in office told me that my foster mother told them that I made phone calls to them, I told them to truth and they say to not to do it again. I was unhappy. First, why my foster mother told them? Second, why can't I talk to my foster parents? I am not a rock, I have feelings! To me, they were steal my family from me! Then I wondering more, why my foster family sent me to the orphanage? I knew I was an orphan, yet at the same time I thought my foster family was my biological family. That was so confusing to you and to me too!!
Later I know that my foster mother didn't tell the orphanage that I made phone call to me. That nanny lied to me so I could admit the truth, that is so unfair! How could they do that! In the orphanage, a lot of the nanny lie, I hated it when they did it, and they never said sorry about it. When it come to kids lying, they told the kids that it's not good to lie! So unfair! I also found out that my foster parents aren't my biological parents, and they sent me to the orphanage to have better education and maybe get adopted.
People talk a lot of adoption in the orphanage. I only thought about wanting a family when I hear kids adopted or when they talk about who is getting a family. I knew when you turn 14, you aged out. When I was around 12, I could't imagine of having a family and living outside of China. Sometimes when they talk about kids go to America, I wondered why none of them stay in China? One time I hear a rumor that one of my friends was adopted by a Chinese family and live in another part of China. That time I wished that my future will be a Chinese family adopt me and stay in China. Of course, it didn't happen. Though I really wish that Chinese people will adopted Chinese orphans! That will be wonderful!!
Sometimes in China I thought, "What's the big deal if I don't get adopted and stay in China? My life isn't too horrible anyway."
On November 29. 2011, the nannies told me that I have a family. I was so happy, but to be honest, I didn't quiet know what I was happy about. I just know that I was happy. Have you had that kind of feelings? I stay happy until the day when my parents got me. I got quiet. When we are leave, I drop a little bit of tears. Then we went back to a house that belong to a women whose name is Joy, and the men call Michael. They job was to welcome foreigners to their house and get them to know Beijing. When they talk about what to do while my family stay in Beijing, the main things that I thought was to see the people that I know. They agree and I ended up visiting my elementary school for about a hour or so. Then I went to LiuYuqing's house. That day was the best day when I was in China with my parents.
The second day with my parents is the day that I sign whether if I want them to be my parents or not. I said yes because I knew if I didn't said yes, the nannies probably going to scold me so bad that I am going to be regret for the rest of my life. How do I know that? There was two kids that was adopted but said no to it. One of them regret because the nannies reminded them again and again.
When I came to America, I was very homesick and there is nothing to do. I waste a lot of times. I made a lot of phone calls. People in China told me over and over again that my parents loves me and I should loves them back. I felt very uncomfortable and guilty.
When my mom adopted Lucy, who was totally stranger to me before, my American classmates will ask if I miss Lucy or loves her. I didn't answer, but I felt guilty.
Onetime we went to a restaurant call Beijing and there is a women who is Chinese and ask me if I was adopted. We told her yes. She said that I was lucky. I disagreed at that time because I was living with two strangers who speak different languages but I didn't say anything.
Year went by, Amy came to our family. Time went by, Amy started to get use to the family before me. As I watched, I wish I could have that kind of happiness too. So I started to learned how to love my family. It's a such long process! However, I did it!!! I felt sorry that my parents have to wait 3 years for me to loves them back, but I later also understood that transition from an orphan to having a family with strangers is just hard!! You just have to let them to take their own time to get adjust to the family.
I have a lot more thoughts to write down, but I think it's too long to write in one post. So please hang in there!
Saturday, September 5, 2015
Prayer for Ma Weibo
为马伟波祈祷
在8月13号的时候，有一个家庭说他们要收养马伟波啦！这真的是让我很开心呀！这是一个很难的路。之前我是特别着急因为时间不多了。我常常怪我自己因为当我帮她找家的时候，时间就已经不多啦。有时候我怪我自己我自私。我真的不敢相信上帝会在这最后一刻帮她找到一个家庭。上帝真的是太好了！
我觉得马伟波会来到美国的，不过有时候我很害怕，因为当我帮助苏楠楠的时候我失败了。我现在还是每天帮马伟波祈祷，但是收养她的家庭的收养程序现在的速度很慢。我想问问你们帮马伟波祈祷。祈祷她的家庭会在她14岁之前能够把她带到美国来。祈祷当他们收养马伟波的时候一切都会过得很顺利。
如果她没有家的话，不要担心，我这次是不会怪我自己，因为我知道没有什么东西可以阻止上帝的计划。况且，她在福利院的生活也不是特别坏。可是，我还是更希望她有一个家庭。无论怎么样，我会跟的上帝的计划的。
谢谢你们！
On August 13, there was one family said they were going to
adopting Ma Weibo! That make me very happy! It has been a tough journey. Before
I was super worry about it because the time is running out. I often I would
blame myself because by the time I tried to find her a family, time is already
running out. Sometime I would blame myself selfish. I really can’t believe that
God would find her a family at the last moment. God is so good!
I think Ma Weibo will come to America, but sometime I’m very
afraid, because I failed when I tried to help Su Nannan. Right now I will pray
for Ma Weibo every night, but the family that is adopting her the adopting
process speed is very slow. I want to ask you guys help to pray for Ma Weibo.
Pray that her family will bring her to America before she is 14. Pray when they
adopting her, everything will go well.
If she doesn’t have a family, don’t worry, this time I would
not blame myself, because I know nothing could stop God’s plan. Beside, her
life in the orphanage isn’t too bad. However, I still rather her having a
family. No matter what, I will follow God’s plan.
Thank you!
Monday, July 20, 2015
My Friend- Ma Weibo
我的朋友-马伟波
我在北京有一个朋友叫马伟波，她这个十月十四日就十四岁了。我很想让她有一个家庭。她的性格跟Amy差不多，活泼可爱，爱说话。她这人特爱体育和美术。她特想要一个家庭。
我每天都会向神祈祷，但是她依然没有家。我开始放弃希望了。忽然，我想起了一个圣经故事，是关于Abraham和神。神曾经答应他的名族会有无数的人，可是到他九十九岁的时候，他还没有孩子。当Abraham准备放弃希望的时候，他的妻子生一个小孩。想到这里，我觉得马伟波会有一个家庭，只不过不是我想要的时间。神在对Abraham一样考验我，但是神的耐心比我要好的好。我知道我现在我不会通过他的考验。但是，我还有一点点希望。所以我觉得，如果我跟大家说的话，说不定有一个人会收养她的。
现在我先问你们帮忙，让马伟波有一个家。我知道我们快没有时间了，但是我们可以把握时间。如果你有任何问题的话，你可以留一个评论。然后我会很乐意的回答你的问题。
I have a friend call Ma Weibo in Beijing, she will be turn
14 this October. I really want her to have a family. Her personality is the
same as Amy, have a lot of energy and also cute. She likes PE and Art. She wants
a family.
I pray to the Lord every day, but she still doesn’t have a
family. I started giving up hope. Suddenly, I remember a Bible story, which is
about Abraham and God. God promised him that his nation will be numberless, but
when he was ninety nine, he still doesn’t have a kid. When Abraham was about to
give up hope, his wife had a baby. Thinking about that, I think Ma Weibo will
have a family, it just not the time I want. God is testing me like the way he
does to Abraham, although God’s patience is much better than mine. I know now I
will not pass the test. However, I still have a little bit of hope. So I think,
if I told everybody, maybe there will one person adopt her.
Now I’m asking you guys to help Ma Weibo have a family. I
know we don’t have much time, but we can use time wisely. If you have
questions, you can leave a comment. Then I will love to answer your questions.
Sunday, July 19, 2015
Am I Going to Have Six Sibling or Not
我会有六个兄弟姐妹吗？
我以前跟你们说过我们家会不会有第七个孩子，对吧。我想你们也想知道我们到底有没有在收养一个小孩。现在我就告诉你。
上次我跟你们说过妈妈的目标是福甜。爸爸也很同意妈妈。可是，Amy和我觉得她实在是太安静了。我们的家庭有一点点吵，所以我觉得如果福甜来到我们家的话，她可能会被冷落的。可是，我还是想让她有一个家庭，只不过不是我们的家庭。现在有人已经在收养她了，但我不知道他们弄完了没有。我为她感到很高兴。
有一天，Amy跟我说妈妈跟她看了一个北京盲童小孩的视频。Amy很喜欢那个小孩。我当时很好奇，所以就问了一下妈妈。当我一看她的脸的时候，我就立马认识她了。她以前跟我一块儿住，我那时候很喜欢她。我觉得她很可爱，我好想收养她呀。
可是，那时候妈妈还是很想收养福甜。爸爸跟妈妈一样。Amy和我想收养那个北京福利院的小孩。后来我们问了问Lucy，她说福甜。所以我们好像会收养她的。
又有一天，Amy跟我说福甜有家了。所以当时我们就想那我们就可以收养那个北京市儿童福利院的小孩。可是，妈妈说我们不会收养的。我们弄完收养了，所以我不会有六个兄弟姐妹，我会有五个。
Before I wrote about if we were going have the seventh kid or not, right? I guess you might want to know if we adopt one more kid or not. Well, right now I’m going to tell you.
Last time I wrote that mom’s goal is Futian. Dad also agree with mom. However, Amy and I thought she is just too quiet. Our family is quiet loud, so I thought if Futian came to our family, she might be left out. However, I still want her to have a family,just not ours. Now there is someone adopting her, but I don’t know if they finish or not. I was very happy for her.
One day, Amy told me that mom show her a video of a Beijing blind girl. Amy like that kid. I was very curious, so I askedmom. When I saw her face, I recognized her immediately. She lived with me before, I liked her very much at the time. I thought she was very cute, I really wanted to her adopt her.
However, mom still wanted to adopt Futian. So does Dad. Amy and I wanted to adopt the girl from Beijing orphanage. Later we ask Lucy, she said Futian. So looked like we were going to adopt her.
Another day, Amy told me that Futian had a family. So we thought we could adopt the girl from Beijing orphanage. However, mom said no. We are done with adoption, so I am not going have six siblings, I’m going to have five.
Saturday, May 16, 2015
Steal Children's Heart
偷小孩的心
在美国我听过有时候当那些孤儿要被收养的时候，那些大人会告诉他们一些可怕的事儿，然后那些小孩就没有被收养因为他们很害怕。在中国我听说过这个故事，我觉得他们不应该做这个。不过，那时候我不怎么相信因为后来我见了那个人而且我觉得她这人很好。她不是大人。后来她告诉我她做了这个是因为她从一个电影看的。之后我就没怎么想这件事儿了。
今年我听到了很多的故事儿。因为我现在更会为孤儿担心了，我就开始生气了。我就是不懂，为什么那些大人会这样？人家小孩又没有找你惹他们的。难道他们就那么讨厌那些小孩儿嘛？那些小孩会有家了，所以她们不会再见到那些小孩了。为什么他们 非把那些小孩弄得那么的害怕？为什么他们就是不能给那些小孩一个好生活?如果他们不喜欢照顾那些小孩的话，那他们根本就不用当阿姨了。
有的时候那些阿姨老师骂他们。时间过久了，那些小孩就开始相信他们不应该活在这个世界。他们是很坏的小孩。没有一个人会爱护他们的。说到了这儿就会让我很伤心。那些小孩不应该信这些事情。他们应该相信他们是有多么的好。他们不应该放弃他们自己。为什么那些大人对他们那么坏。是，他们是孤儿，可是这又说了什么？这并没有说他们是坏人。这并没有说他们不会成为一些伟大或一个好人。这只是说了他们的父母抛弃了他们。他们的身世根本就没有证明他们有什么人格。
如果我们收养更多的小孩，那更少的小孩不会放弃自己。很多的小孩会知道自己有多么的棒。收养是帮助他们的开始。
In American I heard sometimes when kids were going to beadopted, some adult told them scare stuff, then these kids didn’t get adopt because they were super scared. In China I heard those story, I thought they shouldn’t have done that. However, at that time I didn’t believe because later I met that person and I thought she was a really good person. She wasn’t adult. Later she told me she did that because she saw from a movie. After that I didn’t think about so much.
This years I heard many stories. Since I care more about orphans, I started got mad. I just don’t understand, why those adult would do that? Those kids did nothing to you. Do they hate the kids that much? Those kids would have family, so they would not see those kids again. Why they made them so scared? Why they just can’t give them a good life? If they doesn’t like to take care of the kids, then they simply don’t have to be nannies.
Sometimes those nannies would scold them. As time go by, those kids started believe they shouldn’t live in the world. They are bad kids. Nobody would love them. Talk about that it start made me sad. Those kids shouldn’t believe those stuff. They should believe how awesome they are. They shouldn’t give up on them. Why those adults treat them so bad. Yes, they are orphans, but what did that say? It didn’t say they are bad people. It didn’t say they will not be amazing or good person. It just said their parents abandon them. Their life experience didn’t prove what kind of personality they will have.
If we adopt more children, then less children wouldn’t not give up on themselves. More children would know how awesome they are. Adopting is starting of helping them.
Friday, May 15, 2015
Change the House
改变家里
对于美国马里兰州来说，我们的房子是很小的。一般的房子都是我们的两倍。我们现在的房子住这五个人和一只狗。我们每天都过着自由自在，高高兴兴。有一次，爸爸妈妈跟我说我们的地下室要重新弄一弄。当时我觉得我们的地下室一点问题都没有，但是妈妈说她觉得我们的地下室很乱。我想：“那我们就直接可以起来整理整理呀。我们根本就不需要花那么多的钱。”
爸爸妈妈用了一千多美元来整理整理我们的地下室。我们的地下室的确是比以前要整齐了很多。可是，每次当爸爸妈妈花那么多钱的时候都让我想起：我们真的需要吗？我觉得我们还可以坚持坚持。有时候我觉得我们可以用那么多的钱去收养一个小孩或是帮助一个孤儿找到家庭。我不知道为什么我对孤儿那么有兴趣或我那么的关心孤儿。但是，我就是帮助不了我自己，每次我都会想这个。有时候我看看我们家里有那么多的东西，我就觉得我们可以把这些卖了然后帮助一些孤儿。
钱不是一个好的也不是坏的。你有多少钱也不会决定你是好人或是坏人。你怎么花钱会决定你的人格。我决定将来把我大部分的钱帮助孤儿。你想怎么样，那就是你的事儿了。我希望更多的人帮助更多的孤儿。
To Maryland, our house is very small. Usually the other house is twice as ours. Right now our house have 5 people and one dog. Every day we live happily and freely. One time. Mom and dad said to me that our basement need to fix. I thought our basement doesn’t have any problem, but mom said she thought our basement was very mess. I thought, “Then we can just get up and clean. We don’t need to spend that much money at all.”
Mom and dad used more than $1000 to clean our basement. Our basement do look cleaner. However, every times when mom and dad use that much money it made me think: Do we need it? I think we still can live without it. Sometimes I think we could use that much money to adopt a kid or help an orphan to find a family. I don’t know why I’m interesting so much to orphans or care so much about them. However, I just couldn’t help myself, every times I will think about this. Sometimes I look around my house have so much stuff, I think we could sell it and then help some orphans.
Money isn’t a good or bad thing. How much money you have doesn’t prove if you are a good person or a bad person. How you spent your money will decide on your personality. I deicide that in the future I will use most of money to help orphans. What you want, it’s on you. I hope more people will help more orphans.
Saturday, April 18, 2015
Why People Doesn't Adopt
为什么别人不收养
在七年级的时候，我问了好多人如果他们从来有没有想过收养的事儿。很多人都说想过。有些人说现在这个不适合他们。我对大多数人的回答很高兴。有些人他们知道一些被收养的人。这让我很惊奇也很高兴。
后来我想了想，有些人说他们想，但是他们好像从来都没有行动。我一直在想为什么。为什么别人不收养孩子？收养孩子跟亲生孩子都差不多呀，为什么收养的行动不是那些大？
有些人说收养对他们现在不适合。我试着懂他们为什么说这个，可我就是不懂。是什么让他们对收养有一点害怕？我就是不知道。我住在一个很富有的城市。我们的邻居都比我们的房子大两倍，这证明他们的钱比我们多一倍。既然我们收养了，为什么他们不收养呀？他们有那么多的钱。我就是不明白。
我不知道我有没有伤了很多人的心。我现在只是说我心里想的事儿。我现在真的真的很想让所有人收养小孩。如果你不能收养小孩的话，你可以帮其他的孩子找家，帮他们捐款什么的。
我现在知道了一件事儿，不是每个人能收养小孩或想收养小孩。虽然我不知道为什么，但是我会尊重你的想法。我倒是想到告诉你一件事儿，如果你觉得收养小孩不是你的事情，你不用收养一个小孩，但是你可以做一些事帮助那些孤儿。告诉被人关于孤儿的事情。我知道另两个被收养的小孩的博客。说不定这可以帮助你看看孤儿的生活。
http://www.flowerthatblooms.com/
http://www.lifeasanadoptedteen.blogspot.com/
你可以看看这两个伟大的人的故事。
在七年级的时候，我问了好多人如果他们从来有没有想过收养的事儿。很多人都说想过。有些人说现在这个不适合他们。我对大多数人的回答很高兴。有些人他们知道一些被收养的人。这让我很惊奇也很高兴。
后来我想了想，有些人说他们想，但是他们好像从来都没有行动。我一直在想为什么。为什么别人不收养孩子？收养孩子跟亲生孩子都差不多呀，为什么收养的行动不是那些大？
有些人说收养对他们现在不适合。我试着懂他们为什么说这个，可我就是不懂。是什么让他们对收养有一点害怕？我就是不知道。我住在一个很富有的城市。我们的邻居都比我们的房子大两倍，这证明他们的钱比我们多一倍。既然我们收养了，为什么他们不收养呀？他们有那么多的钱。我就是不明白。
我不知道我有没有伤了很多人的心。我现在只是说我心里想的事儿。我现在真的真的很想让所有人收养小孩。如果你不能收养小孩的话，你可以帮其他的孩子找家，帮他们捐款什么的。
我现在知道了一件事儿，不是每个人能收养小孩或想收养小孩。虽然我不知道为什么，但是我会尊重你的想法。我倒是想到告诉你一件事儿，如果你觉得收养小孩不是你的事情，你不用收养一个小孩，但是你可以做一些事帮助那些孤儿。告诉被人关于孤儿的事情。我知道另两个被收养的小孩的博客。说不定这可以帮助你看看孤儿的生活。
http://www.flowerthatblooms.com/
http://www.lifeasanadoptedteen.blogspot.com/
你可以看看这两个伟大的人的故事。
In seventh grade, I asked many people if they ever thought about adoption. Many people said yes. Some people said it wasn't the right for them. I was very happy with most people's answer. Some people said they know people who were adopted. That surprisedme very much and made me very happy.
Later I thought about it, some people said yes, but they seem to never take action. I always thought why. Why they don't adopt kids? Adopting kids is same as having kids. Why adopt movement is not very big?
Some people said adopt isn't right thing for them. I tried to understand why they say that, but I really can't understand. What is it that scares them not to adopt? I just don't know. I live in a rich city. Our neighbor' house is bigger than ours, that means their money is twice as much as ours. If we adopted, whydon’t they adopt? They have so much money, I justdon’t understand.
I don't know if I hurt many people's feeling. I am justsaying what I think. Now I really want everyone toadopt kids. If you can't, you can help other kids find afamily, help them by donating or something.
Now I know one thing, not everybody can adopt kids or wants to adopt kids. Even though I don'tunderstand it, I will respect your view. I want to tell you something though, if you think adopting kids is not your thing, you don't have to adopt, but you can do some thing to help those orphans. Tell other people about orphans. I know two other people whowere adopted by a family who write about it. Maybe that will help you to see orphan's life.
http://www.flowerthatblooms.com/
http://www.lifeasanadoptedteen.blogspot.com/
You guys can look those two amazing people's story.
Thursday, April 16, 2015
My Dream
我的梦想
在Michael被收养了不久之后，我对我的未来很有掌握。我的未来是两个东西：教学和收养。我对这两个长有兴趣。
等我上完了大学了之后，我想和Amy，说不定Lucy去中国两年在爱百福里当志愿者一年，然后在中国看望一年。在那里，我想我会把我知道的那些孩子介绍给大家，这样你们对收养很有趣的人可以对你们想收养的孩子多多了解一下。等我到30岁的时候，我就对知道我想收养的孩子了。希望那时候我已经结婚了。我想让我将来的孩子有一个妈妈和爸爸。我的孩子会都是收养的，可能只有一个是生的，我觉得我不会生孩子。反正我就想收养孩子。
等我从中国回来的时候，我会当一个数学老师。至于叫什么学校，我觉得我好像会教高中。我觉得等我收养我第一个孩子之后，我会像我妈妈一样在家里教我的孩子。因为那时候我的孩子还不知道英语，所以在家里上学也挺好的。
我真希望我将来能够帮助很多的孤儿和儿童。我现在越来越觉得那些在中国和其他国家的孤儿是真的真的能需要好的招呼。我希望你也肯加入这个组去帮助和了解那些可爱的小孩。
Not long after Michael was adopted, I was very sure of my future. My future is two things: Teaching and adopting. I am very passionate about those two things.
When I finish college, I want to go to China with Amy and Lucy for two years to be a volunteer for one year, then visiting China for one year. While there, I think I will share some of the kids that I know to everybody, so that way you will find your child if are interesting of adoption. When I am 30, I will also know about the child I am going to adopt. Hopefully I already married by that time. I want my child to have a mom and a dad. My children will be all adopted, maybe only one will be biological, I think I will not have babies. Anyway, I just want to have adopted children.
When I come home from China, I will be a math teacher. As for what school, I think I will teach high school. I think when I adopt my first child; I will be like my mom and homeschool my children. Because at that time my kids will not know English, so homeschool is better for my kids.
I really hope in the future I will help a lot of orphans and kids. Now I think more and more that the orphans in China and in other countries really need good care. I hope you can also join this team to and know about these cute kids.
Monday, April 13, 2015
Who Should Be the Fourth?
谁应该是第四个？
等Michael被收养了之后，我们一直在讨论谁应该是第四个孩子，或第七个孩子（我有五个兄弟姐妹，但只有两个跟我一块住）。Tracy已经有家了，所以我们得选个另一个小孩。我们对另一个爱百福的小男孩叫Eric有了兴趣。他们跟我们说Eric很聪明，一个星期就学会了中文盲文，而且对着世界也很好奇。我很喜欢她而且很想收养他。
去年夏天妈妈去了中国帮助爱百福的小孩。她发现Eric并不是我们想象的那种Eric。事实的Eric和我们想象的Eric完全相反。从那时候我学了一个新东西：如果你收养一个中国小孩，然后他们给你一张关于那个小孩的报告，有时候他们纸上说跟事实一点都不一样。这让我很生气，我那时候真不明白中国人为什么要骗美国人，这伤害的并不是那些大人，而是那些无辜的孤儿。爸爸跟我说是因为这样他们就可以更快地帮助那些小孩找到家。那时候我想那些倒是挺好的呀。可是爸爸说不是。比如有一个孩子他经常生病，需要经常看医生。如果他们说那个小孩很健康的话，然后收养的那个小孩的家庭认为他是一个很健康的小孩。但等他们见到了那个小孩然后知道他有很多的健康问题，他们决定他们不能收养他因为他们住的地方没有什么好的医生。我觉得他们应该更要诚实一些。我倒是有一个好方法，在你们收养一个孩子之前你们可以去看看他们，但是不要告诉你是他们的父母，因为这让那些小孩很糊涂。在你看看他们的时候，你就可以了解了解他们。这样你就不会有那么多的误会了！
所以我们不能收养Eric因为他不适合我们这家庭。在妈妈在爱百福的时候，她喜欢上了另一个小孩名字叫福甜。她是一个很老实，很安静的小孩。爸爸和妈妈很喜欢她。那时候我不怎么对她有兴趣因为我还是很想收养Eric。但我也什么都没说。我还是很高兴因为我们又要收养小孩了！
After Michael was adopted, we always talked about who should be the fourth child, or the seventh child (I have five siblings, but only two of them are living with me). Tracy already has a family, so we had to choose another child. We were interest in another boy from Bethel who's name is Eric. They told us that Eric is very smart, he learned Chinese braille in one week, and was very curious about the world. I liked him and really wanted to adopt him.
Last summer mom went to China to help the Bethel kids. She found out that Eric isn't the Eric that we thought. The real Eric is totally opposite than we thought. I learned one thing from that event: If you adopt a Chinese child, and they give a report about that child, somtimes what it say on the paper is totally different that the truth. That made me mad, I really didn't understand why Chinese people lie to America people, it doesn't hurt the adult, it hurt those innocent orphans. Dad told me it's because that way they could help the children to get family faster. I thought that was nice. However, dad said no. For example, there is one child is very sick, need to see the doctor very often. If they said that child is very health, then the family who adopt that child think he is a very health child. However, when they met the child they found they that he has many health isssue, they decide they can't adopt him because they place they live doesn't have good doctor. I think they should be more honest. I have a good idea, before you adopting a child you can visit them, but don't tell them that you are they parent, because it will confuse the children. When you visitng them, you can get to know them. That way you will not have many misunderstand.
So we couldn't adopt Eric because he doesn't fit our family. When mom was in Bethel, she like another child name is Futian. She is very well behave, quiet girl. Mom and Dad like her very much. I wasn't very interesting in her because I still want to adopt Eric very much. However, I didn't say anything. I still very happy because we were going adopt another girl again!
等Michael被收养了之后，我们一直在讨论谁应该是第四个孩子，或第七个孩子（我有五个兄弟姐妹，但只有两个跟我一块住）。Tracy已经有家了，所以我们得选个另一个小孩。我们对另一个爱百福的小男孩叫Eric有了兴趣。他们跟我们说Eric很聪明，一个星期就学会了中文盲文，而且对着世界也很好奇。我很喜欢她而且很想收养他。
去年夏天妈妈去了中国帮助爱百福的小孩。她发现Eric并不是我们想象的那种Eric。事实的Eric和我们想象的Eric完全相反。从那时候我学了一个新东西：如果你收养一个中国小孩，然后他们给你一张关于那个小孩的报告，有时候他们纸上说跟事实一点都不一样。这让我很生气，我那时候真不明白中国人为什么要骗美国人，这伤害的并不是那些大人，而是那些无辜的孤儿。爸爸跟我说是因为这样他们就可以更快地帮助那些小孩找到家。那时候我想那些倒是挺好的呀。可是爸爸说不是。比如有一个孩子他经常生病，需要经常看医生。如果他们说那个小孩很健康的话，然后收养的那个小孩的家庭认为他是一个很健康的小孩。但等他们见到了那个小孩然后知道他有很多的健康问题，他们决定他们不能收养他因为他们住的地方没有什么好的医生。我觉得他们应该更要诚实一些。我倒是有一个好方法，在你们收养一个孩子之前你们可以去看看他们，但是不要告诉你是他们的父母，因为这让那些小孩很糊涂。在你看看他们的时候，你就可以了解了解他们。这样你就不会有那么多的误会了！
所以我们不能收养Eric因为他不适合我们这家庭。在妈妈在爱百福的时候，她喜欢上了另一个小孩名字叫福甜。她是一个很老实，很安静的小孩。爸爸和妈妈很喜欢她。那时候我不怎么对她有兴趣因为我还是很想收养Eric。但我也什么都没说。我还是很高兴因为我们又要收养小孩了！
After Michael was adopted, we always talked about who should be the fourth child, or the seventh child (I have five siblings, but only two of them are living with me). Tracy already has a family, so we had to choose another child. We were interest in another boy from Bethel who's name is Eric. They told us that Eric is very smart, he learned Chinese braille in one week, and was very curious about the world. I liked him and really wanted to adopt him.
Last summer mom went to China to help the Bethel kids. She found out that Eric isn't the Eric that we thought. The real Eric is totally opposite than we thought. I learned one thing from that event: If you adopt a Chinese child, and they give a report about that child, somtimes what it say on the paper is totally different that the truth. That made me mad, I really didn't understand why Chinese people lie to America people, it doesn't hurt the adult, it hurt those innocent orphans. Dad told me it's because that way they could help the children to get family faster. I thought that was nice. However, dad said no. For example, there is one child is very sick, need to see the doctor very often. If they said that child is very health, then the family who adopt that child think he is a very health child. However, when they met the child they found they that he has many health isssue, they decide they can't adopt him because they place they live doesn't have good doctor. I think they should be more honest. I have a good idea, before you adopting a child you can visit them, but don't tell them that you are they parent, because it will confuse the children. When you visitng them, you can get to know them. That way you will not have many misunderstand.
So we couldn't adopt Eric because he doesn't fit our family. When mom was in Bethel, she like another child name is Futian. She is very well behave, quiet girl. Mom and Dad like her very much. I wasn't very interesting in her because I still want to adopt Eric very much. However, I didn't say anything. I still very happy because we were going adopt another girl again!
Saturday, April 11, 2015
Miracle
奇迹
等我们收养工作人拒绝了我们收养了Michael，那儿有另一个家庭说想收养他。那时候他们好像只有三个月的时间，最后他们做到了！我们超高兴！这简直是一个奇迹呀！
太棒了！可能上帝知道很多人很想让他有个家，所以就叫一个家庭去举行行动。这真是太不可思议呀！Michael那时候也超高兴要见他的家庭！
在我的生活中，我经过了很多不可思议的奇迹。比如说我还能跟中国人联系，我的数学老师教了两年。在2014年的暑假快到了，我们的司机说我们会换另一辆校车，也可能会有新的司机。我们很喜欢那个司机，他这人特好玩。每次当我们坐校车的时候，我们都会笑个不停。那时候我真希望他不会离开，结果他真的没离开。我今年还有他。我那时候很高兴。
同时我有一点点为苏楠楠伤心。早知道我就坚持收养她，可是她现在没有家庭了。她不会有教育。她不会有人对她说我爱你，告诉她她是多么的漂亮，多么的聪明，多么的棒。我不知道她现在的生活是怎么呀。为什么没有人收养她呀？为什么？
但是，我还是相信我们的生活这是多种多彩的。有那么多的奇迹在我们的周围！这是不是多种多彩呀？
After our social worker said no to us to adopt Michael, there was another family who said they wanted to adopt him. At that time they only had like three months. In the end they made it! We were super happy! That simply was a miracle!
Awesome! Maybe God knew many people wanted him to have a family, so he called a family to take action. That was unbelievable! At that time Michael also was super happy to see his family!
In my life, I have seen many unbelievable miracles. Like I still can get it touch with people in China, and my math teacher taught me for two years. When 2014’s summer vacation came, our bus driver said there was a chance we would have a new bus, maybe also a new bus driver. He is really funny. Every time when we ride the bus, we couldn’t stop laughing. At that time I really hoped he doesn’t leave, and really he didn’t leaved. I still have him this year. I am very happy.
At the same time I also was a little sad for Su Nannan. I should have insisted to adopt her if I know early, but now she doesn’t have family. She won’t have education. She won’t have people say I love you, tell her how beautiful, smart, and awesome she is. I don’t know what her life is like now. Why were there no people to adopt her? Why?
However, I still believe our life is very colorful. There are so many miracles around us. Is that colorful?
等我们收养工作人拒绝了我们收养了Michael，那儿有另一个家庭说想收养他。那时候他们好像只有三个月的时间，最后他们做到了！我们超高兴！这简直是一个奇迹呀！
太棒了！可能上帝知道很多人很想让他有个家，所以就叫一个家庭去举行行动。这真是太不可思议呀！Michael那时候也超高兴要见他的家庭！
在我的生活中，我经过了很多不可思议的奇迹。比如说我还能跟中国人联系，我的数学老师教了两年。在2014年的暑假快到了，我们的司机说我们会换另一辆校车，也可能会有新的司机。我们很喜欢那个司机，他这人特好玩。每次当我们坐校车的时候，我们都会笑个不停。那时候我真希望他不会离开，结果他真的没离开。我今年还有他。我那时候很高兴。
同时我有一点点为苏楠楠伤心。早知道我就坚持收养她，可是她现在没有家庭了。她不会有教育。她不会有人对她说我爱你，告诉她她是多么的漂亮，多么的聪明，多么的棒。我不知道她现在的生活是怎么呀。为什么没有人收养她呀？为什么？
但是，我还是相信我们的生活这是多种多彩的。有那么多的奇迹在我们的周围！这是不是多种多彩呀？
After our social worker said no to us to adopt Michael, there was another family who said they wanted to adopt him. At that time they only had like three months. In the end they made it! We were super happy! That simply was a miracle!
Awesome! Maybe God knew many people wanted him to have a family, so he called a family to take action. That was unbelievable! At that time Michael also was super happy to see his family!
In my life, I have seen many unbelievable miracles. Like I still can get it touch with people in China, and my math teacher taught me for two years. When 2014’s summer vacation came, our bus driver said there was a chance we would have a new bus, maybe also a new bus driver. He is really funny. Every time when we ride the bus, we couldn’t stop laughing. At that time I really hoped he doesn’t leave, and really he didn’t leaved. I still have him this year. I am very happy.
At the same time I also was a little sad for Su Nannan. I should have insisted to adopt her if I know early, but now she doesn’t have family. She won’t have education. She won’t have people say I love you, tell her how beautiful, smart, and awesome she is. I don’t know what her life is like now. Why were there no people to adopt her? Why?
However, I still believe our life is very colorful. There are so many miracles around us. Is that colorful?
Friday, April 10, 2015
Can We Adopt Michael?
我们能不能收养Michael
在2013月1月，我们知道Michael他2014年5月1日就想14岁了。Michael是我们在北京说话的一个盲男孩。他是倒挺好玩的，而且也会好多的乐器。他的梦想是一个音乐家。我们挺喜欢跟他说话。那时候我们很想收养他因为他快到年纪了。妈妈没我有那么的信心因为Amy刚来到家，她怕我们的收养的工作人不会同意因为这太早了。而且我们那时候只有三四个月，我们收养机构没那么快。我那时候觉得只要我们闯一闯，我们会成功的。所以妈妈问了收养的工作人。
一天当我们从学校回来的时候，妈妈告诉我们我们不能收养Michael因为 Amy 得先呆在家里长一些。当时我很生气。难道帮Michael找个家不重要吗？Lucy，Amy和我相处的一点儿问题都没有。我觉得他们应该同意我们收养Michael。
我对这件事也有一点点儿伤心。上次我没能帮助苏楠楠，这次我也不能救Michael。这已经两次了，我真的不想有第三次。
我还想了想：我也有一点点错因为我做的还不够多。我祈祷的不够。那时候我也应该聪明一点，我应该问一些中国人收养Michael，因为国内收养比国际收养更要快。我真不知道为什么没有早点想到这个。每次我都是这样，等那个事情发生了以后我才想到办法了。我的脑子有时候倒挺慢的。
但是，这不是最后的结果，因为后来有个奇迹要发生了。
On January 2013, we knew that Michael is going to turn 14 one May 1st, 2014. Michael is a boy we talked to in Beijing. He was pretty funny, and plays many instruments. His dream was become a musician. We liked to talk to him. We wanted to adopt because he was also age out. Mom didn’t have as much confidence as me because Amy just came to our family. She was scared our social worker wouldn’t said yes because it was too early. Also at that time we only have three - four months, our adoption agency isn’t that fast. I thought if we just try it, we would be successful. So mom asked the social worker.
One day when we came home from school, mom told us that we couldn’t adopt Michael because Amy has to be home longer. At that time I was very unhappy. Was helping Michael to find a family not important? Lucy, Amy and I have no problem to get along. I thought they should say yes to us.
I was a little bit sad about that. Last time I couldn’t help Sun Nannan; this time I could rescue Michael either. That was two times already, I really didn’t want to happen the third time.
I also thought it was a little bit of my fault because I didn’t do enough. I didn’t pray enough. At that time I need be a little bit smarter too, I should ask some Chinese people to adopt Michael, because national is faster than international. I really don’t why I didn’t think that earlier. Every time I would do that, I finally got an idea after the event happen. My brain sometimes is a little slow.
However, this wasn’t the end, because later there was a miracle.
在2013月1月，我们知道Michael他2014年5月1日就想14岁了。Michael是我们在北京说话的一个盲男孩。他是倒挺好玩的，而且也会好多的乐器。他的梦想是一个音乐家。我们挺喜欢跟他说话。那时候我们很想收养他因为他快到年纪了。妈妈没我有那么的信心因为Amy刚来到家，她怕我们的收养的工作人不会同意因为这太早了。而且我们那时候只有三四个月，我们收养机构没那么快。我那时候觉得只要我们闯一闯，我们会成功的。所以妈妈问了收养的工作人。
一天当我们从学校回来的时候，妈妈告诉我们我们不能收养Michael因为 Amy 得先呆在家里长一些。当时我很生气。难道帮Michael找个家不重要吗？Lucy，Amy和我相处的一点儿问题都没有。我觉得他们应该同意我们收养Michael。
我对这件事也有一点点儿伤心。上次我没能帮助苏楠楠，这次我也不能救Michael。这已经两次了，我真的不想有第三次。
我还想了想：我也有一点点错因为我做的还不够多。我祈祷的不够。那时候我也应该聪明一点，我应该问一些中国人收养Michael，因为国内收养比国际收养更要快。我真不知道为什么没有早点想到这个。每次我都是这样，等那个事情发生了以后我才想到办法了。我的脑子有时候倒挺慢的。
但是，这不是最后的结果，因为后来有个奇迹要发生了。
On January 2013, we knew that Michael is going to turn 14 one May 1st, 2014. Michael is a boy we talked to in Beijing. He was pretty funny, and plays many instruments. His dream was become a musician. We liked to talk to him. We wanted to adopt because he was also age out. Mom didn’t have as much confidence as me because Amy just came to our family. She was scared our social worker wouldn’t said yes because it was too early. Also at that time we only have three - four months, our adoption agency isn’t that fast. I thought if we just try it, we would be successful. So mom asked the social worker.
One day when we came home from school, mom told us that we couldn’t adopt Michael because Amy has to be home longer. At that time I was very unhappy. Was helping Michael to find a family not important? Lucy, Amy and I have no problem to get along. I thought they should say yes to us.
I was a little bit sad about that. Last time I couldn’t help Sun Nannan; this time I could rescue Michael either. That was two times already, I really didn’t want to happen the third time.
I also thought it was a little bit of my fault because I didn’t do enough. I didn’t pray enough. At that time I need be a little bit smarter too, I should ask some Chinese people to adopt Michael, because national is faster than international. I really don’t why I didn’t think that earlier. Every time I would do that, I finally got an idea after the event happen. My brain sometimes is a little slow.
However, this wasn’t the end, because later there was a miracle.
Saturday, April 4, 2015
Janna and The Giver
小坚强和善善
在妈妈和我从中国回来的的时候。我听说了一个孤儿的事儿。有些事儿让我生气，有些事让我伤心。
小坚强在中国的生活很不好。她老师老会说她很笨，也她说了很不好的话。他是她最喜欢的老师因为他是唯一肯教她的老师而且她喜欢他教育他学生的方法。我以前听说过她最喜欢的老师，那时候我觉得她最喜欢的老师很好。我真没想到他以前会这样对她。我一点都不喜欢她最喜欢的老师，他怎么那么会演戏。其他的老师比他还坏。他们踢过她。
福利院的阿姨也没有比学校的老师要好。她们根本就不适合当阿姨。她们让所有的东西都让小坚强做，不给她买东西，经常骂她，骗他。我知道你们现在想什么：爱丽丝不是一只想自己做事吗？那些阿姨有什么错？现在我就来告诉你：我的情况跟小坚强的情况不一样。我那个阿姨她有时候让别的小孩帮她干活，所以那时候我就说既然他们让别的小孩该活儿，那我也可以干呀。小坚强的生活也不比接上的小孩要好。除了这个，她还要照顾她福利院里的一个＂姐姐＂。那些阿姨根本就会在乎小坚强。所以对我来说，那些阿姨都应该开除！
小坚强的福利院也有老人。那些老人在小坚强出国之前告诉他一些让她害怕的事儿。这让我很生气，也让小坚强害怕。也让她花了很长时间才融入那个家庭呢。我真不知道为什么那些老人做这些事儿，小坚强又没有着他们惹她们的，他们就不能让她开开心心的去美国呀！真是的！
生气的事儿都说完了，接下来就是伤心的事儿。小坚强老是说关于她姐姐的事儿。他的姐姐是一个很善良的人，我们把她姐姐就叫善善吧。在小坚强出国之前的时候，善善去世了。善善她一生中都在招呼着小坚强。她们俩的姐妹关系好像是世界上最好的姐妹关系。他们俩什么东西都一起做。有一次我们见面说了话，我试着安慰安慰她，但是她说我根本就不懂因为我根本没就没有经过。那时候我很伤心因为我不能安慰她。同时我也觉得我这人什么都不懂。我真不知道我应该怎么安慰她。
现在我想让大家知道一件事儿。我觉得善善可能还会活着的如果她福利院把她招呼的好好的。我的福利院是住在北京，在那里那些领导和主席经常来到我们福利院那儿来看望。但是，善善和小坚强的福利院是住在离北京比较远的地方，所以那些福利院不需要给那些重要的人看他们福利院有多好。那些福利院的阿姨经常找借口不照顾他们。当那些小孩反抗的时候，那些阿姨老师用：＂我是大人，你是小孩。是你在教我还是我教你。我讨厌当她们说这个。人并不是完美的，有时候他们会有错，他们应该谦虚地认错！
现在我想让你想想：他们当孤儿是他们的错吗？我觉得不是。那些在中国无辜的孤儿应该别人那么对待吗？我觉得不是。如果你们跟我的想法一样的话，我想你们会像我一样的很想帮助对吧？那你们有什么办法吗？我有两个办法：一个是把那些孤儿带进一个温暖幸福的的家庭。一个是让中国的政府和其他人注意到那些阿姨的行动，然后让那些阿姨执行她们应该做的事儿。我觉得这两个都是好办法，也都会实现。但是，我觉得第二个办法跟第一个要快和好，因为什么东西都没比一个温暖幸福的家庭要好。况且，第二个办法要是用很长的时间因为要是一种文明活习惯改变是很难的，不管是好的还是坏的。所以在我们等那些阿姨改变之前，我们可以做一些伟大的事情。
现在就让我们手牵手的帮助那些孤儿吧！
When mom and I came back to America from China, I heard an orphan's story. Some of the things I heard made me mad, some made me sad.
Janna's life in China wasn't very good. Her favorite teacher told her that she was stupid and said many bad words to her. He was her favorite teacher because he was the only teacher that would teach her and she liked the way that he taught the students. I had heard about her favorite teacher and thought he was very good. I couldn't imagine that he would treat her like that, he must have been a very good actor to have fooled everyone! Other teachers were worse than him. They kicked her.
The orphanage nannies weren't any better than the teachers. They made Janna do everything. I know what you guys are thinking now: Alice wants to do everything by herself, isn't that right? What did the nannies do wrong? Now let me tell you: my situation and Janna's situation are different. My nannies sometimes would let kids help them do chores, so I thought if they let other kids do chores, then I could do them too. Janna's life was no better than the kids who lived on the streets. In addition to that, she had to take care of a "sister" in her orphanage. Those nannies didn't care about Janna at all. So I think those nannies should be fired!
Janna's orphanage also had old people. Those old people told her some stuff that made her very scared before she came to America. That made me mad, it also made Janna scared. It also took her a long time to trust her family. I really don't know why those people told her those stories. Janna didn't do anything to them, couldn't they just let her happily come to America?
The previous makes me mad, the following makes me sad. Janna always talked about her sister. Her sister had a very soft and kind heart. Let us call her The Giver. Before Janna came to America, The Giver passed away. The Giver used her whole life to take care of Janna. Their sister relationship probably is the best in the world. They did everything together. One time I met Janna and talked, I tried to comfort her, but she said that I don't understand because I never experience the loss of someone close. At that time I was very sad because I couldn't comfort her. I really didn't know how should I comfort her.
Now I want to tell you guys something. I think The Giver would have lived if her orphanage had taken care of her well. My orphanage is in Beijing. The president and the important people came to visit my orphanage very often. However, The Giver and Janna's orphanage is very far away from Beijing, so they didn't have to show how good their orphanage was. Those orphanage nannies often found excuses to not to take care of them. When the children protest that the nannies were wrong, the nannies always use "I am adult, are you teaching me or am I teaching you?" I hate when they say that. People are not perfect, sometimes they are wrong, they should just say they are wrong.
Now I want you to think: Is it their fault that they became orphans? I don't think so. Should they be treated that way? I don't think so. If you agree with me, I bet you, like me, want to help the orphan so badly. What idea do you have? I have two ideas: One is to bring those orphans to a blessed happy family; One is to let the China government and other people be aware of of those nannies actions, then enforce them to do the things that they should do. Those two ideas are both good and doable. However, I think the first idea is better and faster than the second idea, because nothing is better than a blessed happy family. In fact, the second idea will take a long time because if you want to change a culture or a habit it is very hard. So while we are waiting for them to change, we can do some mighty things.
Now let us hold hands to help those orphans!
在妈妈和我从中国回来的的时候。我听说了一个孤儿的事儿。有些事儿让我生气，有些事让我伤心。
小坚强在中国的生活很不好。她老师老会说她很笨，也她说了很不好的话。他是她最喜欢的老师因为他是唯一肯教她的老师而且她喜欢他教育他学生的方法。我以前听说过她最喜欢的老师，那时候我觉得她最喜欢的老师很好。我真没想到他以前会这样对她。我一点都不喜欢她最喜欢的老师，他怎么那么会演戏。其他的老师比他还坏。他们踢过她。
福利院的阿姨也没有比学校的老师要好。她们根本就不适合当阿姨。她们让所有的东西都让小坚强做，不给她买东西，经常骂她，骗他。我知道你们现在想什么：爱丽丝不是一只想自己做事吗？那些阿姨有什么错？现在我就来告诉你：我的情况跟小坚强的情况不一样。我那个阿姨她有时候让别的小孩帮她干活，所以那时候我就说既然他们让别的小孩该活儿，那我也可以干呀。小坚强的生活也不比接上的小孩要好。除了这个，她还要照顾她福利院里的一个＂姐姐＂。那些阿姨根本就会在乎小坚强。所以对我来说，那些阿姨都应该开除！
小坚强的福利院也有老人。那些老人在小坚强出国之前告诉他一些让她害怕的事儿。这让我很生气，也让小坚强害怕。也让她花了很长时间才融入那个家庭呢。我真不知道为什么那些老人做这些事儿，小坚强又没有着他们惹她们的，他们就不能让她开开心心的去美国呀！真是的！
生气的事儿都说完了，接下来就是伤心的事儿。小坚强老是说关于她姐姐的事儿。他的姐姐是一个很善良的人，我们把她姐姐就叫善善吧。在小坚强出国之前的时候，善善去世了。善善她一生中都在招呼着小坚强。她们俩的姐妹关系好像是世界上最好的姐妹关系。他们俩什么东西都一起做。有一次我们见面说了话，我试着安慰安慰她，但是她说我根本就不懂因为我根本没就没有经过。那时候我很伤心因为我不能安慰她。同时我也觉得我这人什么都不懂。我真不知道我应该怎么安慰她。
现在我想让大家知道一件事儿。我觉得善善可能还会活着的如果她福利院把她招呼的好好的。我的福利院是住在北京，在那里那些领导和主席经常来到我们福利院那儿来看望。但是，善善和小坚强的福利院是住在离北京比较远的地方，所以那些福利院不需要给那些重要的人看他们福利院有多好。那些福利院的阿姨经常找借口不照顾他们。当那些小孩反抗的时候，那些阿姨老师用：＂我是大人，你是小孩。是你在教我还是我教你。我讨厌当她们说这个。人并不是完美的，有时候他们会有错，他们应该谦虚地认错！
现在我想让你想想：他们当孤儿是他们的错吗？我觉得不是。那些在中国无辜的孤儿应该别人那么对待吗？我觉得不是。如果你们跟我的想法一样的话，我想你们会像我一样的很想帮助对吧？那你们有什么办法吗？我有两个办法：一个是把那些孤儿带进一个温暖幸福的的家庭。一个是让中国的政府和其他人注意到那些阿姨的行动，然后让那些阿姨执行她们应该做的事儿。我觉得这两个都是好办法，也都会实现。但是，我觉得第二个办法跟第一个要快和好，因为什么东西都没比一个温暖幸福的家庭要好。况且，第二个办法要是用很长的时间因为要是一种文明活习惯改变是很难的，不管是好的还是坏的。所以在我们等那些阿姨改变之前，我们可以做一些伟大的事情。
现在就让我们手牵手的帮助那些孤儿吧！
When mom and I came back to America from China, I heard an orphan's story. Some of the things I heard made me mad, some made me sad.
Janna's life in China wasn't very good. Her favorite teacher told her that she was stupid and said many bad words to her. He was her favorite teacher because he was the only teacher that would teach her and she liked the way that he taught the students. I had heard about her favorite teacher and thought he was very good. I couldn't imagine that he would treat her like that, he must have been a very good actor to have fooled everyone! Other teachers were worse than him. They kicked her.
The orphanage nannies weren't any better than the teachers. They made Janna do everything. I know what you guys are thinking now: Alice wants to do everything by herself, isn't that right? What did the nannies do wrong? Now let me tell you: my situation and Janna's situation are different. My nannies sometimes would let kids help them do chores, so I thought if they let other kids do chores, then I could do them too. Janna's life was no better than the kids who lived on the streets. In addition to that, she had to take care of a "sister" in her orphanage. Those nannies didn't care about Janna at all. So I think those nannies should be fired!
Janna's orphanage also had old people. Those old people told her some stuff that made her very scared before she came to America. That made me mad, it also made Janna scared. It also took her a long time to trust her family. I really don't know why those people told her those stories. Janna didn't do anything to them, couldn't they just let her happily come to America?
The previous makes me mad, the following makes me sad. Janna always talked about her sister. Her sister had a very soft and kind heart. Let us call her The Giver. Before Janna came to America, The Giver passed away. The Giver used her whole life to take care of Janna. Their sister relationship probably is the best in the world. They did everything together. One time I met Janna and talked, I tried to comfort her, but she said that I don't understand because I never experience the loss of someone close. At that time I was very sad because I couldn't comfort her. I really didn't know how should I comfort her.
Now I want to tell you guys something. I think The Giver would have lived if her orphanage had taken care of her well. My orphanage is in Beijing. The president and the important people came to visit my orphanage very often. However, The Giver and Janna's orphanage is very far away from Beijing, so they didn't have to show how good their orphanage was. Those orphanage nannies often found excuses to not to take care of them. When the children protest that the nannies were wrong, the nannies always use "I am adult, are you teaching me or am I teaching you?" I hate when they say that. People are not perfect, sometimes they are wrong, they should just say they are wrong.
Now I want you to think: Is it their fault that they became orphans? I don't think so. Should they be treated that way? I don't think so. If you agree with me, I bet you, like me, want to help the orphan so badly. What idea do you have? I have two ideas: One is to bring those orphans to a blessed happy family; One is to let the China government and other people be aware of of those nannies actions, then enforce them to do the things that they should do. Those two ideas are both good and doable. However, I think the first idea is better and faster than the second idea, because nothing is better than a blessed happy family. In fact, the second idea will take a long time because if you want to change a culture or a habit it is very hard. So while we are waiting for them to change, we can do some mighty things.
Now let us hold hands to help those orphans!
Saturday, March 7, 2015
Day 11- Birthday, Consulate Appointment, and Shopping
第十一天－生日，领事馆预约和购物
我们在中国的第十一天，第四天在广州的时候是12月10日－Lucy的生日！我们那天在上跟Lucy，爸爸和Molly在Skype里通话。我和Amy给Lucy唱中文的生日歌。Lucy那时候好像很高兴。我们那时候也很高兴。
那天上午我们去了领事馆，这样Amy就可以成为美国公民了。Amy那天也同意她想被妈妈和爸爸收养而且跟妈妈一起去美国。太棒了！
之后我们就购物，我们那时候是像一种头发的东西。我们就找呀找，结果也没有找着。
那天早上我也告诉了Amy关于郑老师。我那时候已经等不及去见郑老师了！我那时候还有两天。
这就是我们在中国的第十一天。
When we were in China the eleventh day, the fourth day in Guangzhou, it was December 10th, Lucy’s Birthday! That day we talked with Lucy, dad, and Molly at home through Skype. Amy and I sang happy birthday in Chinese, Lucy seemed very happy. We were also very happy.
That morning we went the Consulate, so that Amy could become an American citizen. That day Amy also agreed that she wanted to be adopted by mom and dad and come to America with mom. Great!
Then we went shopping. At that time we were looking for a kind of hair stuff. We searched and searched, but couldn’t find it.
That morning we also told Amy about Mrs. Zheng. At that time I couldn’t wait to see Mrs. Zheng! At that time I had two more days before I would see her!
That was our eleventh day in China.
我们在中国的第十一天，第四天在广州的时候是12月10日－Lucy的生日！我们那天在上跟Lucy，爸爸和Molly在Skype里通话。我和Amy给Lucy唱中文的生日歌。Lucy那时候好像很高兴。我们那时候也很高兴。
那天上午我们去了领事馆，这样Amy就可以成为美国公民了。Amy那天也同意她想被妈妈和爸爸收养而且跟妈妈一起去美国。太棒了！
之后我们就购物，我们那时候是像一种头发的东西。我们就找呀找，结果也没有找着。
那天早上我也告诉了Amy关于郑老师。我那时候已经等不及去见郑老师了！我那时候还有两天。
这就是我们在中国的第十一天。
When we were in China the eleventh day, the fourth day in Guangzhou, it was December 10th, Lucy’s Birthday! That day we talked with Lucy, dad, and Molly at home through Skype. Amy and I sang happy birthday in Chinese, Lucy seemed very happy. We were also very happy.
That morning we went the Consulate, so that Amy could become an American citizen. That day Amy also agreed that she wanted to be adopted by mom and dad and come to America with mom. Great!
Then we went shopping. At that time we were looking for a kind of hair stuff. We searched and searched, but couldn’t find it.
That morning we also told Amy about Mrs. Zheng. At that time I couldn’t wait to see Mrs. Zheng! At that time I had two more days before I would see her!
That was our eleventh day in China.
Thursday, February 26, 2015
Day 7- Leaving Amy's Home
第七天－离开Amy的家
在2013年12月6日，我们离开了Amy的家乡，南昌江西。等我们进机场的时候，她就开始变安静了。妈妈说这是因为这一次她真的是离开她自己的家了，我那时候点了点头，但我什么都没想。我也什么感觉都没有。
等我们晚上到了广州宾馆的时候，Amy就不怎么舒服。然后我和妈妈吃了晚饭，Amy没吃因为她很不舒服。我那时候什么感觉都没有。之后我就上床睡觉了。
说到这儿，我觉得我这个很没有良心。我的妹妹一点都不舒服，可我却一点都不关心我的妹妹，一点儿感觉都没有。这花了我两年的时间才懂得Amy当时的感受。我真人就是那么坏！
In 2013 December 6, we left Amy's home, Tonggu, Jiangxi. When we entered the airport, she became silence. Mom said this is because that was she really leaving home, at that time I nod, but I didn't think anything. I didn't feeling anything.
When at that night we came hotel in Guangzhou, Amy felt not so good. Then mom and I ate super, Amy didn't eat because she was feeling very bad. At that time I didn't feeling anything. Then I went to bed.
Talking about that, I think I have no heart. My sister felt no good, but I didn't even care about my sister, didn't feeling nothing. It took me two year to understand Amy's feeling back them. I am just so bad!
在2013年12月6日，我们离开了Amy的家乡，南昌江西。等我们进机场的时候，她就开始变安静了。妈妈说这是因为这一次她真的是离开她自己的家了，我那时候点了点头，但我什么都没想。我也什么感觉都没有。
等我们晚上到了广州宾馆的时候，Amy就不怎么舒服。然后我和妈妈吃了晚饭，Amy没吃因为她很不舒服。我那时候什么感觉都没有。之后我就上床睡觉了。
说到这儿，我觉得我这个很没有良心。我的妹妹一点都不舒服，可我却一点都不关心我的妹妹，一点儿感觉都没有。这花了我两年的时间才懂得Amy当时的感受。我真人就是那么坏！
In 2013 December 6, we left Amy's home, Tonggu, Jiangxi. When we entered the airport, she became silence. Mom said this is because that was she really leaving home, at that time I nod, but I didn't think anything. I didn't feeling anything.
When at that night we came hotel in Guangzhou, Amy felt not so good. Then mom and I ate super, Amy didn't eat because she was feeling very bad. At that time I didn't feeling anything. Then I went to bed.
Talking about that, I think I have no heart. My sister felt no good, but I didn't even care about my sister, didn't feeling nothing. It took me two year to understand Amy's feeling back them. I am just so bad!
Monday, February 16, 2015
Day 3- Adoption
第三天－收养
在2013年12月2日，Amy正式是我们家里的成员。那天可能是她最伤心的一天吧。当我们去办公室的时候他第一句话就是：“何阿姨在哪儿？”那时候何阿姨在办公室里做别的事情，然后其他的阿姨找到了何阿姨。这让Amy很开心。我跟她们也说了说话，当时我觉得那些阿姨到挺好的。等到走了的时候，Amy像上一天一样依依不舍，何阿姨给她一个拥抱。当时我就想起了郑老师，因为我觉得这是一个很幸福的记忆而且我在想何时郑老师会给我拥抱呀。
等我们回到了宾馆的时候，我们的翻译员Elsie问Amy她想不想看他的学校或福利院。她立马就说福利院。然后Elsie问关于学校的时候她好像不是那么兴奋。当时我很惊奇她为什么对学校不是有很大的兴趣。但是我也什么都没说。
随着时间的推移，她的心情慢慢的变好了。
In December 2, 2013, Amy officially became a member of our family. That day maybe was the saddest day in her life. When we went to the office, her first question was, "Where is nanny He?" At that time nanny He was doing other things in the office, then other nannies found nanny He and they all came to the office. Amy and nanny He spend time with each other. That made Amy very happy. I talked to them a little bit too, that time I thought these nannies are nice. When it was time to go, Amy still didn't want them to go just like the day before and nanny He gave her a hug. That time it made me think about Mrs. Zheng, because I thought it was a very blessed memory and I was wondering when Mrs. Zheng would give me a hug.
When we went back to the hotel, our translator Elsie asked Amy if she wanted to visit her orphanage or school. She immediately said orphanage. Then when Elsie asked about school, she seemed not so excited about it. It surprised me that she didn't have as much excitement for school. However, I didn't say anything.
Over time her mood became better and better.
在2013年12月2日，Amy正式是我们家里的成员。那天可能是她最伤心的一天吧。当我们去办公室的时候他第一句话就是：“何阿姨在哪儿？”那时候何阿姨在办公室里做别的事情，然后其他的阿姨找到了何阿姨。这让Amy很开心。我跟她们也说了说话，当时我觉得那些阿姨到挺好的。等到走了的时候，Amy像上一天一样依依不舍，何阿姨给她一个拥抱。当时我就想起了郑老师，因为我觉得这是一个很幸福的记忆而且我在想何时郑老师会给我拥抱呀。
等我们回到了宾馆的时候，我们的翻译员Elsie问Amy她想不想看他的学校或福利院。她立马就说福利院。然后Elsie问关于学校的时候她好像不是那么兴奋。当时我很惊奇她为什么对学校不是有很大的兴趣。但是我也什么都没说。
随着时间的推移，她的心情慢慢的变好了。
In December 2, 2013, Amy officially became a member of our family. That day maybe was the saddest day in her life. When we went to the office, her first question was, "Where is nanny He?" At that time nanny He was doing other things in the office, then other nannies found nanny He and they all came to the office. Amy and nanny He spend time with each other. That made Amy very happy. I talked to them a little bit too, that time I thought these nannies are nice. When it was time to go, Amy still didn't want them to go just like the day before and nanny He gave her a hug. That time it made me think about Mrs. Zheng, because I thought it was a very blessed memory and I was wondering when Mrs. Zheng would give me a hug.
When we went back to the hotel, our translator Elsie asked Amy if she wanted to visit her orphanage or school. She immediately said orphanage. Then when Elsie asked about school, she seemed not so excited about it. It surprised me that she didn't have as much excitement for school. However, I didn't say anything.
Over time her mood became better and better.
Saturday, February 14, 2015
Meet Amy
见Amy
在2013年11月29日，妈妈和我早上5点起来去上飞机飞中国接Amy。那天是一个很无聊的一天。等我们到了北京的时候，我们还得要飞到南昌。那时候我是好累好累，所以我就睡着了。我妈妈那时候很不想让我睡觉因为她怕下一天我会很累。不过下一天我根本就没有一天问题。
在2013年12月1日，我和妈妈在宾馆一楼见了Amy。在我们见她之前，我们在宾馆坐一会儿，那时候我在读妈妈的博客，是关于Lucy的。那时候我的读书英语程度还不是很好，所以我就让妈妈给我翻译。妈妈告诉我Lucy的脑瘫有好多的无知，他们不知道为什么有时候Lucy会怎么做，或那样做。妈妈说可能她的亲生父母在她哭的时候打了她。那时候我就哭了，我就是明白为什么他们要对Lucy这样呀。Lucy什么都做错！
下午我们我们见了Amy。当她进来的时候，她在搂着一个阿姨。等我们的翻译来的时候，我发现她的声音很大。我那时候觉得他好像不会小声说话。之后我们找了一个合影，然后我们就去我们的屋里。当我们去屋里的时候，她立马就问她最喜欢的何阿姨。当时我觉得她不是怎么容易被耍耍。
等那些阿姨要走的时候，她就开始哭了。当时我就想起那天我被收养的时候。我心想：她这人真好呀！那么舍不得阿姨。
晚上我跟她说了说话，而且我们有说有笑的。当时我就很高兴，我觉得我们相处的到挺好的。
第一天就有那么好，我真是太高兴了。
In November 29, 2013, mom and I woke up 5am to go airport to fly to China. That day was a very boring day. When we arrived in Beijing, we had to fly to Nanchang. That time I was very tired, so I fell in sleep. My mom at that time didn't want to sleep because she was afraid that I would be super tired next day. However, I didn't have any problem on the next day.
In December 1, 2013, mom and I went to first floor of our hotel and met Amy. Before we met her, we spent some time in our room, I was reading mom's blog, it's about Lucy. That time my english reading wasn't really good, so I let mom to explain it. Mom told me that Lucy's CP has a lot of unknowns. They don't know why Lucy react to things in a certain way. Mom said maybe her birth parent hit her when she cried. That time I cried, I didn't understand why they treat Lucy like that. Lucy did nothing wrong.
Afternoon we met Amy. When she came, she held on to the nanny. When the translater came, I noticed her voice is very loud. I was thinking maybe she can't talk in a small voice. Then we took a group picture, and then we went to our room. When we entered the room, she asked about her favorite nanny, He, immediately. At that times I thought that she is not easy to trick.
When is time for the nannies to go, she started crying. It reminded me when I was adopted. I thought: She have big heart! Don't want the nannies leave so much!
At night I talked to her a little bit, and we had a laugh. I was very happy, I thought we get along fine.
The first day is so good. I was very happy.
在2013年11月29日，妈妈和我早上5点起来去上飞机飞中国接Amy。那天是一个很无聊的一天。等我们到了北京的时候，我们还得要飞到南昌。那时候我是好累好累，所以我就睡着了。我妈妈那时候很不想让我睡觉因为她怕下一天我会很累。不过下一天我根本就没有一天问题。
在2013年12月1日，我和妈妈在宾馆一楼见了Amy。在我们见她之前，我们在宾馆坐一会儿，那时候我在读妈妈的博客，是关于Lucy的。那时候我的读书英语程度还不是很好，所以我就让妈妈给我翻译。妈妈告诉我Lucy的脑瘫有好多的无知，他们不知道为什么有时候Lucy会怎么做，或那样做。妈妈说可能她的亲生父母在她哭的时候打了她。那时候我就哭了，我就是明白为什么他们要对Lucy这样呀。Lucy什么都做错！
下午我们我们见了Amy。当她进来的时候，她在搂着一个阿姨。等我们的翻译来的时候，我发现她的声音很大。我那时候觉得他好像不会小声说话。之后我们找了一个合影，然后我们就去我们的屋里。当我们去屋里的时候，她立马就问她最喜欢的何阿姨。当时我觉得她不是怎么容易被耍耍。
等那些阿姨要走的时候，她就开始哭了。当时我就想起那天我被收养的时候。我心想：她这人真好呀！那么舍不得阿姨。
晚上我跟她说了说话，而且我们有说有笑的。当时我就很高兴，我觉得我们相处的到挺好的。
第一天就有那么好，我真是太高兴了。
In November 29, 2013, mom and I woke up 5am to go airport to fly to China. That day was a very boring day. When we arrived in Beijing, we had to fly to Nanchang. That time I was very tired, so I fell in sleep. My mom at that time didn't want to sleep because she was afraid that I would be super tired next day. However, I didn't have any problem on the next day.
In December 1, 2013, mom and I went to first floor of our hotel and met Amy. Before we met her, we spent some time in our room, I was reading mom's blog, it's about Lucy. That time my english reading wasn't really good, so I let mom to explain it. Mom told me that Lucy's CP has a lot of unknowns. They don't know why Lucy react to things in a certain way. Mom said maybe her birth parent hit her when she cried. That time I cried, I didn't understand why they treat Lucy like that. Lucy did nothing wrong.
Afternoon we met Amy. When she came, she held on to the nanny. When the translater came, I noticed her voice is very loud. I was thinking maybe she can't talk in a small voice. Then we took a group picture, and then we went to our room. When we entered the room, she asked about her favorite nanny, He, immediately. At that times I thought that she is not easy to trick.
When is time for the nannies to go, she started crying. It reminded me when I was adopted. I thought: She have big heart! Don't want the nannies leave so much!
At night I talked to her a little bit, and we had a laugh. I was very happy, I thought we get along fine.
The first day is so good. I was very happy.
Tuesday, February 10, 2015
Getting ready for Amy
在2013年11月，我们知道我和妈妈会在月底去中国接Amy。我告诉了我的老师和学生。他们都为我很高兴。
妈妈说我们会在最后几天去北京看望看望我认识的人。我当时就特别的高兴。我当时就想到我中国最喜欢的郑老师。后来我把这个告诉了我中国的同学和老师。我先告诉了刘雨晴 关于这件事儿，她第一个回答就是我们有病，因为我们收养那么多的小孩，所以她觉得我们要成为一个福利院。我当时不怎么喜欢她说的话。我真希望有一天当我告诉她事情的时候，她的回答会议一个好的回答，而不是那种过不在乎或是那种不好的回答。说到了这儿，每次当跟我中国同学说我妈妈要收养另一个小孩的时候，她们的回答老是：“又要收养呀！”我当时心里想了想，为什么你们觉得收养小孩是不好的事儿？为什么你们觉得有那么多的兄弟姐妹是一种坏事？我觉得越大的家庭越好，因为这样就会热闹。
我那时候已经等不及要去中国了！等不及去看我的妹妹，我的老师和阿姨。我实在是太高兴了。同时我觉得舍不得，我会两个星期见不到我美国最喜欢的老师，但是我什么都没说，我也没想那么多。我已经准备好了跟妈妈一起去中国。
In 2013 November, we knew Mom and I are going to China at the end of the month to get Amy. I told my teachers and classmates. They all were very happy for me.
Mom said that we will fly to Beijing to visit the people I knew at the end of trip. At that time I was very happy and thought about Mrs. Zheng (my favorite teacher in China). Then I told this to my teacher and classmates in China. First I told Liu Yuqing (her English name is Linda). Her first respond was that we are crazy, because we adopted so many kids, so she thought that we are going to became an orphanage. I didn't like what she said at that time. I wish that someday when I tell her something, her response will be a good one, not that kind of "I don't care" or not so good answer. Talking about that, every time I told my classmate in China my mom is going to adopt another kid, their response always was "Again!" At that time I was thinking, why you guys think adopting kids is not a good thing? Why you guys think that having so many siblings is bad thing. I think the bigger the family the better, because that way it's very lively.
At that time I already couldn't wait to go to China! Couldn't wait go see my sister, teachers and nannies. I was so happy. At the same time I also felt reluctant, I would not see my America favorite teacher for two weeks, but I said nothing, I didn't think that much. I was already ready to go China with mom.
妈妈说我们会在最后几天去北京看望看望我认识的人。我当时就特别的高兴。我当时就想到我中国最喜欢的郑老师。后来我把这个告诉了我中国的同学和老师。我先告诉了刘雨晴 关于这件事儿，她第一个回答就是我们有病，因为我们收养那么多的小孩，所以她觉得我们要成为一个福利院。我当时不怎么喜欢她说的话。我真希望有一天当我告诉她事情的时候，她的回答会议一个好的回答，而不是那种过不在乎或是那种不好的回答。说到了这儿，每次当跟我中国同学说我妈妈要收养另一个小孩的时候，她们的回答老是：“又要收养呀！”我当时心里想了想，为什么你们觉得收养小孩是不好的事儿？为什么你们觉得有那么多的兄弟姐妹是一种坏事？我觉得越大的家庭越好，因为这样就会热闹。
我那时候已经等不及要去中国了！等不及去看我的妹妹，我的老师和阿姨。我实在是太高兴了。同时我觉得舍不得，我会两个星期见不到我美国最喜欢的老师，但是我什么都没说，我也没想那么多。我已经准备好了跟妈妈一起去中国。
In 2013 November, we knew Mom and I are going to China at the end of the month to get Amy. I told my teachers and classmates. They all were very happy for me.
Mom said that we will fly to Beijing to visit the people I knew at the end of trip. At that time I was very happy and thought about Mrs. Zheng (my favorite teacher in China). Then I told this to my teacher and classmates in China. First I told Liu Yuqing (her English name is Linda). Her first respond was that we are crazy, because we adopted so many kids, so she thought that we are going to became an orphanage. I didn't like what she said at that time. I wish that someday when I tell her something, her response will be a good one, not that kind of "I don't care" or not so good answer. Talking about that, every time I told my classmate in China my mom is going to adopt another kid, their response always was "Again!" At that time I was thinking, why you guys think adopting kids is not a good thing? Why you guys think that having so many siblings is bad thing. I think the bigger the family the better, because that way it's very lively.
At that time I already couldn't wait to go to China! Couldn't wait go see my sister, teachers and nannies. I was so happy. At the same time I also felt reluctant, I would not see my America favorite teacher for two weeks, but I said nothing, I didn't think that much. I was already ready to go China with mom.
Wednesday, January 28, 2015
The Fourth?
第四个孩子？
在我们弄第三个孩子的时候，妈妈又找到了一个小女孩。（哦，对了，我们给了第三孩子一个英文名子，Amy。）第四个孩子她已经有名字了，Tracy。她也是一个盲童女孩，她住在爱百福，一个视障私立寄养机构。我看看了她的一个用盲杖的视频，我挺喜欢她的。
妈妈说我们可能会把Tracy和Amy一块儿收养。我很想把她们一块儿收养，我不知道为什么。我那时候很想收养Tracy。不过，妈妈说了等我们把Amy收养完了，说不定我们就可以收养Tracy。我那时候很高兴。
我很喜欢收养小孩。
When we were doing paper work for "The Third," mom found another girl. (Oh, we had a English name for the third child, Amy.) The fourth child already had a name, Tracy. She also is a blind girl. She lives in Bethel, a private foster agency for the visually impaired. I saw a video where she used a cane. I liked her.
Mom said that we might try to adopt Tracy and Amy together. I really wanted to adopt them together. I don't why. At that time I really wanted to adopt Tracy. However, mom said that when we finish adopting Amy, then maybe we could adopt Tracy. At that time I was really happy.
I like to adopt kids very much.
在我们弄第三个孩子的时候，妈妈又找到了一个小女孩。（哦，对了，我们给了第三孩子一个英文名子，Amy。）第四个孩子她已经有名字了，Tracy。她也是一个盲童女孩，她住在爱百福，一个视障私立寄养机构。我看看了她的一个用盲杖的视频，我挺喜欢她的。
妈妈说我们可能会把Tracy和Amy一块儿收养。我很想把她们一块儿收养，我不知道为什么。我那时候很想收养Tracy。不过，妈妈说了等我们把Amy收养完了，说不定我们就可以收养Tracy。我那时候很高兴。
我很喜欢收养小孩。
When we were doing paper work for "The Third," mom found another girl. (Oh, we had a English name for the third child, Amy.) The fourth child already had a name, Tracy. She also is a blind girl. She lives in Bethel, a private foster agency for the visually impaired. I saw a video where she used a cane. I liked her.
Mom said that we might try to adopt Tracy and Amy together. I really wanted to adopt them together. I don't why. At that time I really wanted to adopt Tracy. However, mom said that when we finish adopting Amy, then maybe we could adopt Tracy. At that time I was really happy.
I like to adopt kids very much.
Monday, January 26, 2015
The Third
第三个孩子
在2013年的夏天我妈妈找到了另一个我们要收养的孩子。我们看了一个她唱歌的视频。然后妈妈问我我觉得她怎么样。我的回答是“我不知道。”我那时候在想：“我们只看一个视频而已。如果你想知道一个人，你得跟他们至少花一天时间说话吧。”但是，这并不说明我不想让妈妈收养孩子。她会成为我们家庭的一个人员。我很高兴妈妈还能愿意继续收养其他的孩子。
在那个夏天，我们录了几个我们的声音然后我给她翻译了一下。那时候我们是在计划妈妈和我回去中国接她因为我可以帮助他们翻译。
那时候我就想了想，既然她看不见的话，那她怎么洗澡呀？我在福利院认识了一个盲人（一个很可爱的盲童女孩），但是我并没有看过她是怎么做个人任务。妈妈说：“跟其他人一样。”但是，我就是想不到她怎么洗澡。想到这儿，我觉得我是有一点点小看了她。但是，在我认识她之前，我学了一点点关于盲人的东西。当我学了关于盲人的东西之后，我就没有担心她怎么做东西了。
她会是我们家的第六个孩子，但是因为我三个大哥哥姐姐没有住家里了，所以我就叫她“第三孩子”。她是一个盲人而且比我小一岁。我那时候很兴奋跟妈妈一块去中国。
In the summer of 2013 my mom found another child that we were going to adopt. We watched a video of her singing a song. Then mom asked what I thought of her. I answered "I don't know." I was thinking "We only watched a video. If you want to know a person, you have to spend at least a day visiting them." However, that doesn't mean that I didn't want mom to adopt her. She was going to be part of my family. I was so happy that mom could still want to adopt other children.
That summer we did a recording of our voices and I translated for her. At that time we were planing that mom and I would go to get her because I could help translate.
At that time I thought, If she can't see, how can she shower? I had known one blind person when I was in the orphanage (a very cute blind girl), but I never saw how she did personal tasks. Mom said "just like everybody else." However, I just couldn't image how she would shower. Think about that, I think I was a little underestimating her. However, before I met her, I learned a little about the blind. After I learned about the blind, I didn't worry about how she would do things anymore.
She is now the sixth child in our family, but since my older three siblings are not living at our house anymore, I just call her "The Third." She is blind and a year younger than me. I was very excited to go with mom to China.
在2013年的夏天我妈妈找到了另一个我们要收养的孩子。我们看了一个她唱歌的视频。然后妈妈问我我觉得她怎么样。我的回答是“我不知道。”我那时候在想：“我们只看一个视频而已。如果你想知道一个人，你得跟他们至少花一天时间说话吧。”但是，这并不说明我不想让妈妈收养孩子。她会成为我们家庭的一个人员。我很高兴妈妈还能愿意继续收养其他的孩子。
在那个夏天，我们录了几个我们的声音然后我给她翻译了一下。那时候我们是在计划妈妈和我回去中国接她因为我可以帮助他们翻译。
那时候我就想了想，既然她看不见的话，那她怎么洗澡呀？我在福利院认识了一个盲人（一个很可爱的盲童女孩），但是我并没有看过她是怎么做个人任务。妈妈说：“跟其他人一样。”但是，我就是想不到她怎么洗澡。想到这儿，我觉得我是有一点点小看了她。但是，在我认识她之前，我学了一点点关于盲人的东西。当我学了关于盲人的东西之后，我就没有担心她怎么做东西了。
她会是我们家的第六个孩子，但是因为我三个大哥哥姐姐没有住家里了，所以我就叫她“第三孩子”。她是一个盲人而且比我小一岁。我那时候很兴奋跟妈妈一块去中国。
In the summer of 2013 my mom found another child that we were going to adopt. We watched a video of her singing a song. Then mom asked what I thought of her. I answered "I don't know." I was thinking "We only watched a video. If you want to know a person, you have to spend at least a day visiting them." However, that doesn't mean that I didn't want mom to adopt her. She was going to be part of my family. I was so happy that mom could still want to adopt other children.
That summer we did a recording of our voices and I translated for her. At that time we were planing that mom and I would go to get her because I could help translate.
At that time I thought, If she can't see, how can she shower? I had known one blind person when I was in the orphanage (a very cute blind girl), but I never saw how she did personal tasks. Mom said "just like everybody else." However, I just couldn't image how she would shower. Think about that, I think I was a little underestimating her. However, before I met her, I learned a little about the blind. After I learned about the blind, I didn't worry about how she would do things anymore.
She is now the sixth child in our family, but since my older three siblings are not living at our house anymore, I just call her "The Third." She is blind and a year younger than me. I was very excited to go with mom to China.
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